Do All Moms Truly Believe Their Boys Are Rapists?
I don’t parent online. I don’t share anything about my child on the Internet, nor do I belong to any Facebook groups related to parenting. When a local mommy group informed me that I’d have to download the Meetup app in order to stay abreast of meetings and events, I ditched the mommy group. I already write about parenting online. I don’t need to live my relationship with my child through the Internet. You see, parenting writing has taught me that there is a huge disconnect between real-world parenting and the theoretical debates we have about parenting online.
For instance, contrary to popular belief, the huge majority of children in this country have yet to question their sexual identity. Boys, in large part, continue to enjoy sports and toy guns. And many, many children still walk home alone from school or the bus stop. Yes, there is a growing number of transgender kids, boys in dresses, and conflict-resolution preschool studies going on in this world. Yes, they should be confronted. But they should not be seen as the overall culture’s definition of “normal” attitudes or behaviors.
Take, for instance, nutball freelance feminist Jody Allard’s insistence that her two sons are an inherent part of “rape culture” by virtue of being male. In the real world, 98 percent of mothers of boys would balk at considering their sons to be latent rapists. The other two percent, the ones cheering on Allard through clicks and shares, are probably just jealous they didn’t have girls. As Ben Sasse would say, #liveyourpassion and let’s all move on, shall we? Sometimes the problem is that we don’t move on. Instead, we latch on and give these idiots way more attention than they truly deserve.
Allard gained notoriety last year after her rape culture piece for the Washington Post, in her words, “went semi-viral.” Apparently, the diseased words didn’t go viral enough for the Post; her follow-up piece wound up as clickbait for a site called “Role Reboot” that attacks gender norms with the belief that there is “no normal.” According to Alexa, the average visitor to Role Reboot sticks around for a minute to browse approximately one page on the site. Its global ranking is near 350,000 while the Washington Posts’s is 187. The numbers mean that most of Allard’s readers got sick the first time around, now they’re immune for good and thankfully the disease is dying, albeit perhaps more slowly than we’d prefer.
The Internet is a healthy reminder that countercultures will always exist. In a way, they act as healthy reminders of how truly destructive bad ideas can be. Allard is no exception to this rule. In her follow-up at Role Reboot, she demeans one son for secretly hating her after catching wind of her claims in the Washington Post. One wonders if this is the same son who is also plagued with suicidal depression. That doesn’t matter to Allard, though, who quickly goes from berating her child for disagreeing with her about his underlying urge to rape women, to dishing about Internet dating. As Iron Ladies founder Leslie Loftis observed of Allard here at PJ Media last year: