Mother Says Her Teen Sons—Good Boys—Are Culpable for Rape Culture
The two sons in this mother's lament might not know anything about how it feels to be rape survivors, but they do know something about enduring emotional abuse. One day perhaps they will write to other men about their emotional wounds from being raised by a mother who insists that they own responsibility for the sins of men they’ve never met and do not aspire to be.
My sons are good boys, just like thousands of other good boys in America. They understand consent and they won’t rape an unconscious woman behind a dumpster. But they aren’t allies in the fight against rape culture because they refuse to acknowledge their own culpability when they call a girl a slut or a whore, laugh at a sexist joke or remain silent when their friends talk about their own questionable sexual behavior. And in this broken system, anyone who isn’t with us is against us. Particularly, and especially, men. Even my own sons — even yours.