Seven Reasons Life Is Hard For Everyone
Is life hard for you? Do you struggle all the time? Do you wish things were easier? If so, that puts you in exactly the same boat as EVERYONE ELSE on the entire planet.
Many people don't realize this because we trick ourselves. We think, "If I had 'X,’ everything would be fantastic! If I could just achieve 'Y,' then everything would be wonderful!"
Thing is, this isn't true. Do you know what happens when you get your heart's desire? You walk on air for a few weeks and then, you adjust. You think, "Gosh, if I were rich, life would be easy! If I were famous, life would be grand! Wow, if I could just be that good looking, I'd never have anything to complain about."
Except the thing is, I've met rich people, famous people, successful people, extraordinarily beautiful people -- and guess what? They have just as many problems as everyone else. It's just a different set of problems.
1) Don't we love to talk about love? Love is simultaneously the most wonderful and horrible thing in the world. It's wonderful in that it can bond you to a soulmate with whom you will spend a significant chunk of the rest of your life, if all goes well. But under the best of circumstances, love is a LOT of work that will last, ideally, from the time it begins UNTIL YOU DIE.
Love is also horrible in that it can blind you to a partner's faults, make you irrational almost beyond belief, or get you to commit to a soul-crushing bad marriage. Have you ever seen one of those movies where aliens are about to destroy the human race, then they finally realize what love is and change their minds? Truthfully, if the aliens understood how completely nuts love makes us, they'd probably be more likely to exterminate our species.
…… And all of that describes people who are still in love. When love ends badly, it ends in decimation.
Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life....You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like “maybe we should be just friends” turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love. -- Neil Gaiman
Then there's the worst option of all: sitting around wondering what's wrong with you because you haven't been in love in a long time and there's no love on the horizon. That's enough to make even a Kim Kardashian-style wedding look good in comparison.
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