Dr. Helen

The Dangers of Tinder for Men

Women can ruin a man’s reputation in a flash; this man is fighting back by taking the perpetrator he met on Tinder to court:

A Houston man is seeking $200,000 from a former Tinder date he claims defamed him online and cost him his job.

Joseph Lazarus, 32, broke up with the woman he matched with on Tinder in 2014 and since then, he claims the woman has spread lies about him online and to two former employers, according to Harris County District Court documents filed Wednesday by Lazarus’ attorney Joseph Mathew…..

Lazarus’ relationship with the woman lasted about three months after the two matched on Tinder. During that brief time, he called their interactions normal. The two would go out to dinner and even attended a Houston startup convention together since Lazarus was working at an oil startup at the time and she was an aspiring entrepreneur.

Lazarus claims the two just didn’t hit it off, so he decided to break up with her in person. She wanted to remain friends; he did not. Within a few months after the breakup, Lazarus said he started receiving threatening messages from her. At one point he received a message from her demanding $10,000 from him or she would tell people he raped her.

The threats became even more real in the fall of 2016. That’s when Lazarus was called into his bosses office. Lazarus was working for a high end automobile broker in Houston at the time. The boss had seen posts about Lazarus on thedirty.com, a user-submitted gossip site, and couldn’t risk his company’s reputation. …

The posts called Lazarus “creepy” and someone who “would have sex/rape fat chicks just to amuse his friends.”

Lazarus was fired that day.


Dating sites like Tinder have their upsides, especially if they allow normal people to meet. However, when you get someone revengeful or just plain mean, these sites can spell trouble, especially for men who becomes a real liability for a company if he is even accused of rape of sexual harassment. Of course, false rumors and lies can be spread in offline relationships too. It’s important for men to monitor their dates more carefully and to fight back in court like this man when things go wrong.

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