Dr. Helen

Why Can't a Man Be a Dinner Whore Too?

The man known as the “dine-and-dash dater” has been charged for defrauding women:

A man lambasted as the “dine-and-dash dater” after being accused of meeting women at restaurants across the Los Angeles area only to leave them with the bill pleaded not guilty to charges of theft and extortion on Monday, prosecutors said.

Paul Guadalupe Gonzales, 45, allegedly connected with a string of women through dating apps and websites and invited them out to dinner between May 2016 and this April with the intent of using them as a meal ticket, the L.A. County District Attorney’s Office said in a news release.

He arranged dates at restaurants in Pasadena, Long Beach, Burbank and Los Angeles, where he ordered and consumed food and drinks, then disappeared before the bill had been paid, the DA’s office said.

Eight women told prosecutors they’d footed the bill, one of them under the belief that Gonzales would pay her back. And at least twice, the restaurant paid its own check — making those businesses victims in the criminal complaint, officials said.

In total, Gonzales is accused of defrauding the women of more than $950.

He’s also charged with receiving hair salon services, then leaving before paying….

He was subsequently charged with seven counts of extortion, two counts of attempted extortion and one count of grand theft — all felonies. He also faces two misdemeanor counts each of defrauding an innkeeper and petty theft.

If convicted as charged, the defendant could spend up to 13 years in state prison, prosecutors said.


Okay, I get the conviction for running out on the hair salons but I bet that’s not where the problem is. The big issue here is that Gonzales is a man daring to use women as a meal ticket rather than the other way around. How dare he step on women’s turf! Many women have been using men for years as a meal ticket and now some guy thinks he can do the same. The nerve. In fact, women using men for meals is so common that there is a name for them: “dinner whores.”

Do you really think a woman who left her date after dinner without paying would be facing a felony and up to 13 years? Of course not. And the man would be held liable for the bill no matter what; no business would have that much pity on him. In fact, some places would probably blame him for being a bad date. And defrauding women for 950 bucks? For some men, that’s one or two bad dates, but they don’t get any money back or get to claim they were defrauded. Maybe it’s high time they did.

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