Dr. Helen

Kris Jenner's Dilemma

i am cait

So I watched the “I Am Cait” season finale the other night as I wanted to see what Kris Jenner had to say to Cait (Bruce) during their first talk in the six months since Bruce Jenner announced he was becoming a woman. Here is what took place (if you care):

Kris and Caitlyn Jenner finally came face to face on Sunday’s I Am Cait, the first time the exes had spoken in “at least six months,” according to the reality star.

“I just felt thrown under the bridge,” Kris said of her ex’s transition. “You were so excited to be going through this exciting time in your life, but I feel like I really was blindsided in a lot of ways. And that really got to me so bad that I couldn’t…I didn’t want to communicate with you and be angry.”

“What would you be angry for?” Caitlyn asked. When Kris was reluctant to explain, Caitlyn pushed her, “because it affects the kids.”

“You’re sensitive and amazing to all these new people in your life,” Kris admitted. “You’re just not so sensitive and amazing to this side of the family that you left behind.”

“I know you said you haven’t gone anywhere and you’re still the same person,” Kris admitted tearfully. “But sometimes they just miss having Bruce around. We all do.”

Both women clearly still have some resentment issues to work out — Caitlyn over Kris’ radio silence in the month following her announcement, and Kris for comments that Caitlyn made in her Vanity Fair expose. However, by the end of their conversation, things were looking up.

“I’m really happy for you, I really am,” Kris told Caitlyn. “Because I want you to be happy.”

Really, Kris is now happy for Caitlyn and didn’t want to talk to her when she was angry? Why wasn’t she that considerate when Caitlyn was Bruce? Even Caitlyn mentions what crap she was treated like in their marriage when he (she) was just Bruce for years. If you doubt me, take a look at the past episodes of “Keeping Up with the Kardashians” where Bruce’s opinions were ignored; he pretty much lived in the garage and anger was thrown his way with abandon by the family and Kris in particular. Sound familiar? This is the way many men are treated by families every day, and no one gives a crap. After all, they’re just men and probably have no feelings.

Now that Bruce has come out as a woman, his feelings are treated with care, and everyone, including Kris, is walking on eggshells. Why? It is socially unacceptable to trash talk women, particularly transgender women. Kris must feel angry inside, but can’t really express it. She has to pretend to be happy for Cait. To profess otherwise makes her into the bad guy. Now, if Cait were a man, she could talk with abandon and her anger would be justified. But she has been one-upped by Caitlyn. Maybe more men should transition to women as an act of self-defense as misandry spreads. Bruce joined the winning team and really, who can blame him?


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