Dr. Helen

The United Singles of America

The New York Post had this recent article on the state of marriage in America (via Newsalert):

Unmarried American adults outnumber their married counterparts for the first time since the federal government began tracking that data in 1976, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics.

There were 124.6 million single Americans in August — accounting for 50.2 percent of the 16-and-over US population, the BLS data showed.

Eric Klinenberg, an NYU sociology professor who tracks marriage trends, predicts the unmarrieds will probably be edging their married peers by this small margin for the foreseeable future….

But while the numbers might look stark, Americans are still getting together — they’re just not racing down the aisle.

“Just because people are not getting married doesn’t mean they’re not partnering and cohabitating,” said Karen Guzzo, a sociology professor at Bowling Green State University.

How much of the decrease in marriage rates is because men are on strike? How much of it is for other reasons? Whatever the reason for singles taking over in the US, it is important that the laws reflect equality in partnerships between men and women, or better yet, the law should stay out of personal relationships as much as is humanly possible.

However, I doubt that will happen so men must be ever vigilant as the society changes to one of a nation of singles that they do not end up being responsible in traditional ways for women while the women pretend to be “empowered.” Given the lack of due process, the tendency to blame men for relationship problems and unequal treatment in domestic relations, men might be better off not living too long with any one woman. This is bad for society and families, but might be a better solution for individual men.

What is your take on singles now outnumbering the married in the US? Pro or con?