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Should you throw a tantrum because you have to go to work?

Okay, a href=”http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1105266/Feeling-stressed-You-ought-tantrum.html”this article /a(via Drudge) has to be the silliest things I’ve read this year (the year has just begun, I wonder what other nonsense is awaiting us). Anyway, the article says that if you feel stressed today about going back to work after the holidays, just throw a tantrum:br /br /blockquoteThe end of the holidays, cold weather and economic gloom will make today one of the most stressful days of the year for returning to work. br /br /But experts have come up with an unlikely remedy – throwing a tantrum. br /br /’Releasing tension through shouting and screaming is a really beneficial way to expel the negative energies caused by stress,’ said body language expert Judi James, the Big Brother psychologist. /blockquotebr /br /I love the causes of work stress that a poll in the article found:br /br /blockquoteThe advice comes as a survey reveals that people are most likely to be irritated by colleagues eating noisily (28 per cent), sniffing (26 per cent), talking too loudly on the phone (21 per cent) and even singing (5 per cent). /blockquotebr /br /So, in response to these petty annoyances, one is to get angry and shout (luckily, the article does report doing so in a quiet place)? I hardly think this is sound psychological advice. a href=”http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1105266/Feeling-stressed-You-ought-tantrum.html”Some of the commenters /aappear much more psychologically astute than the so-called expert Big Brother psychologist who (I think) incorrectly advocates a tantrum:br /br /blockquoteOh how misunderstood this is. If anyone knew about human behaviour they would know that trying to vent stress or anger through shouting, screaming, throwing a tantrum or even using a punch bag will only result in you becoming more stressed and angry. If this was the case, Buddhists would be constantly shouting and punching walls. No, they relax and take deep breaths. br /br /These so called experts need to get a grip on reality. Throwing tantrums behaving badly is so 2008, get out get some control over your life. br /br /Screaming shouting behaving badly might de-stress you but it would not help those around you. br /br /As for a tantrum they are for toddlers, which most of the adult population seem to behave like sometimes. /blockquotebr /br /What is called for if one is upset at work might be assertiveness, not necessarily aggression. How about talking to the loud person on the phone and asking them to be a little less loud. Taking calm, deep breaths is relaxing and helpful–so is counting to ten. Taking a walk or clearing your mind is also good. br /br /I don’t understand encouraging people to engage in tantrums, it sounds like a recipe for increasing one’s anger and frustration. It teaches nothing about self-control or problem solving and does not seem at all helpful. Or try reading a self-help book like Albert Ellis’s a href=”http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0806520108?ie=UTF8tag=wwwviolentkicomlinkCode=as2camp=1789creative=9325creativeASIN=0806520108″emHow To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You/em/aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=0806520108″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”” style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” / before going into work, it just might have some better suggestions than the Big Brother psychologist noted in the article. br /br /What do you do if stressed at work?