5 Ways to Prevent Your Kid From Becoming a Whiny Basement-Dwelling Antifa Snowflake
My wife and I have raised four kids; they are all adults now and living and working on their own. They are not perfect and we are not perfect. However, my wife and I have picked up some valuable information along the way about raising kids to become adults.
What I see in our country right now is pretty alarming to me, since I have observed an inordinate amount of fully grown adults (people in their 20s and up) not only still living in their parents' homes and being dependent on their aging parents, but also displaying childish behavior and refusing to grow up. A friend brought this interesting article to my attention in which 63 percent of American moms say that their kids have not been properly prepared for adulthood.
So what can we do? Here are a few ideas:
1. Start early.
Tell your kids early about being an adult. We told our kids when they were about nine or ten that at some point they would want to leave our home and begin their own lives. We didn't scare them with "hey kid, when you're 18 you're outta here!"
We painted for them a wonderful and truthful picture that being an adult means you can work in the career of your choice, live on your own, chart your own course, and become a respected and responsible citizen of wherever you choose to live. We let them know that it was our job to prepare them for that wonderful future and that we would help them along the way.
Once they began their teen years, our kids learned that at age 18, they would be expected to have settled on the general direction of their lives. Childhood and dependency on Mom and Dad would (for the most part) end, and we would transition them into the adult world. By the time they turn 18 they should have decided if they wanted to enter the workforce directly or postpone that by going to college or some sort of vocational/technical trade school.
College is not the only way for everyone. Although both my wife and I have college degrees, we would be just as happy if a child went directly into the workforce. We also held out joining the U.S. Military as a valid option whether they wanted to enter college or the workforce (some people choose R.O.T.C. in college; others choose to directly enlist). One thing was clear for all four of our kids: they would not be allowed to loaf around in our house "trying to find themselves."
As it turned out, one kid went to college and earned his master's degree and is currently an athletic trainer at a major university. Another child served successfully in the U.S. Marine Corps, and is now enjoying a fruitful career in security. One child is currently working in the nursing profession and going to college to earn a degree in physical therapy, and the last one is pursuing a career in ballet.