No, Bearded Mom, You Can't Take Your Daughter to the Father-Daughter Dance
I'd had about just as much as I could take of the cultural sewage when someone sent me this article about a mother, Amy Peterson, dressing up like a man to escort her daughter to a father-daughter dance. I realize that in calling this what it is...bat crap crazy...I will be labeled insensitive at best and a [email protected]#damn homophobe at worst. I don't care. Much like when I heard through the grapevine that some lunatic mother I know through a friend had "transitioned" her two-year-old little boy into a girl (and is now being investigated by child protective services for also possibly poisoning him), I am at the end of my rope with this kind of thing. And rightly identified, it's called abuse. It is not okay to confuse your children about what sex they are and it's not okay for Mom to be Dad. Mom is not Dad and can never be Dad, even if she grows a beard and wears a tie. A man is to a little girl what Prince Charming was to Cinderella. It cannot be replicated by Mom. Sorry.
But wait...she's a single mom! There is no dad! False. This child has a male father somewhere. I don't know if he's living or just a deadbeat, but she has one. And if she really has no dad who is active in her life, then her mother should have already taken steps to ensure that her young lady has a solid adult male presence in her life to stand in for her dad during times like these, when only a dad's shoes can fill the void. No little girl wants to get dressed up in a gown and dance with her mother...who is wearing a beard.
As an example, my family has many men in it (as all families do unless you belong to the Amazons, who were created by Zeus). All of these men would stand in for Dad if my daughter needed a date to a daddy-daughter dance. There are two grandfathers, five uncles, ten second cousins, and even great uncles who would be honored to escort her to a dance. My family lost a father who left behind a little girl and every one of her uncles stepped in to be that dad figure. She went from one dad to no dad to three dads overnight. Even if Peterson is an only child with deceased parents, is there no family friend, no pastor, no youth pastor, no godparent to shepherd this girl through those special times when a dad is what she needs? What bothers me more than anything in this article is that Peterson admits that her daughter is teased for not having a father. So why on earth wouldn't she move heaven and earth to make sure there was a loving male relative or friend to stand in and keep the bullies at bay? Instead, she made a fool out of herself in the newspaper. How is that going to play in the cafeteria on Monday for her daughter?