5 Psychological Defense Mechanisms You Probably Use Without Realizing It
Your behavior is influenced by information that surges through three different channels -- your conscious mind, your subconscious mind, and your instincts.
Your conscious mind is easy to explain. Think about how you use your conscious mind and, congratulations, you're using your conscious mind. Now, think about what that means -- and again, you're using your conscious mind and you know you're doing it.
Your instincts are a little trickier and many people would even categorize them as part of your subconscious mind. However, because they're more instantaneous and easier to read, i.e. "This just doesn't feel right" or "Something tells me that guy is lying to me," they deserve to be treated as distinct from our conscious and unconscious mind.
That brings us to the subconscious, which is the most fascinating of the three because it so often steers us without our being able to feel its misty hand on the reins. It’s like The Matrix Revolutions except with mediocre special effects and no Keanu Reeves. One day you're a computer programmer and the next thing you know, you're engaged in a seemingly endless stream of philosophy class banter while you wait for your ten-minute fight scene at the end of the movie with Agent Smith, which is the only cool thing left in the atrocity you call a movie...ehr, a life.
The message: Your life doesn't have to be as crummy as The Matrix Revolutions. You can be better than that by spotting and correcting these psychological defense mechanisms.
In C.S. Lewis's classic The Screwtape Letters, a devil instructs his nephew to try to corrupt a man by
(aggravating) that most useful human characteristic, the horror and neglect of the obvious. You must bring him to a condition in which he can practice self-examination for an hour without discovering any of those facts about himself which are perfectly clear to anyone who has ever lived in the same house with him or worked in the same office.
Actually, it doesn't take a devil to pull this off. Unless you have honest friends, a good psychologist, or are unusually introspective, that's probably a good description of you as well. Taking a tough, unsparing look at yourself is painful and even scary because when you find problems, you feel compelled to change to fix them. Denial may be easy, but ultimately it's those who know themselves best who go the farthest in life.