Interesting article describing the lack of physical touch that is absent in many men’s lives:
We American men have a tragic laundry list of reasons why we are not comfortable with touch:
- We fear being labeled as sexually inappropriate by women.
- We live in a virulently homophobic culture so all contact between men is suspect.
- We don’t want to risk any hint of being sexual toward children.
- We don’t want to risk our status as macho or authoritative by being physically gentle.
- We don’t ever want to deal with rejection when we reach out.
But at the root of all these flawed rationalizations is the fact that most American men are never taught to do gentle non-sexual touch. We are not typically taught that we can touch and be touched as a platonic expression of joyful human contact. Accordingly, the very inappropriate over-sexualized touch our society fears runs rampant, reinforcing our culture’s self fulfilling prophecy against men and touch. Meanwhile, this inability to comfortably connect via touch has left men emotionally isolated, contributing to rampant rates of alcoholism, depression and abuse.
What man in his right mind would touch anyone these days? In light of all the sex abuse accusations and #MeToo hashtags, this phenomenon will only get worse.