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A question for Jessica Ashley, a proponent of violence against men

It seems thata href=”http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/whats-next-for-elin-nordegren-and-tiger-woods-549896/” span style=”font-style:italic;”Shine/span staff columnist Jessica Ashley feels sorry for/a Elin, the wife of Tiger Woods (via a href=”http://pjmedia.com/instapundit/89449/”Instapundit/a):br /br /blockquoteI am not going to opine about whether Elin should or should not stick with her husband (although early reports are saying she’s planning to stand by him, after a revision of the prenup). Instead, I say that she should do whatever it is she has to do.span style=”font-weight:bold;” If that is taking the tool of her husband’s trade to smash the window of his Cadillac Escalade, so be it /span(my emphasis).If that is combing through his phone and dialing up any suspicious numbers, go to it. If that is trying to work through it (hopefully, with help of a professional), then help yourself. If that is to handle it behind closed doors, then do that.br /br /Although none of us is in the relationship with Tiger and Elin, many of us certainly have been in that situation. span style=”font-weight:bold;”If this statistic is right, that 1 in 4.6 married or cohabitating men have been unfaithful, then big crowds of us can understand any of the choices Elin might make/span (my emphais).br /br /While there will certainly be an audience waiting with bated breath to criticize whether Elin stays with Tiger or walks away, I think we should stand by Elin instead. And if she needs a friend to go at the rest of the windows, pass the golf clubs, Elin. I’ve got your back./blockquotebr /br /Gee, Jessica, have you ever read span style=”font-style:italic;”Newsweek/span? It seems thata href=”http://www.newsweek.com/id/54389″ American women lead secret lives that are not so secret/a to many people, if they would just open their eyes:br /br /blockquoteJust how many married women have had sex with people who are not their husbands? It’s hard to say for sure, because people lie to pollsters when they talk about sex, and studies vary wildly. (Men, not surprisingly, amplify their sexual experience, while women diminish it.) Couples therapists estimate that among their clientele, the number is close to 30 to 40 percent, compared with 50 percent of men, and the gap is almost certainly closing. In 1991, the National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago asked married women if they’d ever had sex outside their marriage, and 10 percent said yes. When the same pollsters asked the same question in 2002, the “yes” responses rose to 15 percent, while the number of men stayed flat at about 22 percent. The best interpretation of the data:span style=”font-weight:bold;” the cheating rate for women is approaching that of men,/span says Tom Smith, author of the NORC’s reports on sexual behavior. When Michele Weiner-Davis, a marriage counselor and founder of the Divorce Busting Center in Woodstock, Ill., started practicing 20 years ago, just 10 percent of the infidelity she knew of was committed by women. Now, she believes, it’s closer to 50 percent. “Women have suddenly begun to give themselves the same permission to step over the boundary the way that men have.”/blockquotebr /br /So my question to this proponent of violence against men is this: Given that women’s marital infidelity is approaching that of men (who are catting around just like Tiger), should their husbands feel free to take the tool of his wife’s trade and smash in her car and perhaps her face? Because that is what you are advocating. Cheaters get beaten and their property trashed. I don’t agree.br /br /Or maybe what you are really saying is that you are for female privilege. If so, just say it out loud so everyone can know where you and your fellow sadistic “crowd” stands, not for equality between the sexes, but as a proponent of violence against men.