By now, everyone has read over the ad (slide show, whatever) from Obama’s campaign on the life of Julia, a composite figure who will supposedly get cradle-to-grave government care under the Obama regime. Of course, the only mention of a male in Julia’s life is her son Zachary, whom she has at the age of 31. There is an implied father but we never hear about him. And then there is this:
From cracking down on gender discrimination in health care costs to fighting for equal pay, President Obama is standing up for women throughout their lives.
Now, let’s see what happens to the men in Julia’s life.
The nonexistent husband or boyfriend, let’s call him Fred, has led a pretty sad life under the administration, as will her son, Zachary. Here is what they can look forward to from Obama’s “crack down on gender discrimination”:
Three years old: Put in Head Start where feminized teachers tell the parents the boy moves around too much and needs Ritalin.
Seventeen years old: After years of being told he is a perverted, good-for-nothing loser for being male, and hating school because he never learned to read well, he decides not to go to college. Or if he does finally decide to go, he finds himself sitting through lectures on why men are to blame for the ills of the world. Luckily, he sees a good-looking girl and approaches her. They get drunk one night and have great sex. The next week, however, he is summoned by the college administration and told that he raped this girl and is expelled from school without much evidence or any due process due to Obama’s “Dear Colleague Letter.”
Twenty-five years old: With no degree and a charge of rape that never stood up in court, he still has trouble getting a job and decides to become self-employed. With all the regulations and rules under the Obama administration, he has trouble getting set up but finally manages. No loans for him, as he’s not special enough like Julia.
Age 30: He meets a woman named Julia and they date for a while. Maybe things are turning around for him. They have sex and Julia tells him she is on the pill. A few months later, she is pregnant; he wants to get married but she can get better treatment with child support and the government paying her way and says “hell no.” Julia sues for child support. The next thing you know, she is living well and the man in her life is living part of the time on the streets and the other part in jail since he can’t afford the $1000 a month child support payment when his business is slow.
Age 37: He rarely sees his son, Zachary, and Julia has turned him against his father anyway. Zachary wants little to do with him.
Age 65: Enrolls in Medicare but is denied a prostate exam. He is male, don’t ya know. Gets prostate cancer but it is advanced due to not catching it in time.
Age 67: Dies broke after using his money first for Zachary and then to pay for Julia and other women’s upkeep in the Obama economy.
Age 68: Another statistic while the New York Times grumbles that not enough men are dying early like Julia’s guy.
Zachary at 37 doesn’t want to end up like his dad and, after years of facing his own discrimination for the crime of being born male in Obama’s regime, he starts a movement to get revenge on the system that has oppressed him and his father. Civilization is never the same.
Zachary = John Conner?
Future Obama regime sends back Terminator to kill Julia before she can conceive.
Don’t worry. The reality is that JUlia’s mother had a partial-birth abortion.
No, that was with Julia’s first two older sisters.
Julia is the child she finally decided to have, since she was over 30, and the ex-convicts were not attracted to her anymore.
Dr. Smith,
I am not disputing what you write — I find much of it likely.
However, could you expand on this: “Age 65: Enrolls in Medicare but is denied a prostate exam. He is male, don’t ya know. Gets prostate cancer but it is advanced due to not catching it in time.” Or in wiki speak, citation-needed.jpg. This sounds unbelievable, which is not saying it is false.
The other portion I am curious about is if Julia really is eligible for a small business loan and why. It’s my (very uninformed) impression that people just starting off a business with no customers, office etc., really are not eligible for small business loans unless…. So is Julia just as eligible as a man for that SBA loan, or is she more eligible than a man for an SBA loan because she is a woman. And how likely is it anyway that a “web developer/web designer” really can get an SBA loan?
Jerry:
Dr. Helen is projecting. The assumptions about rationing health care for seniors is based on both actual intent in the Affordable Care Act, and the fact that such rationing occurs now in most national health care systems. The British system, for example, does not allow kidney dialysis for people over 65.
Minority and gender set-asides for small businesses have been in place for decades, and have been much abused as such.
I think it’s unlikely the man would not be able to get the prostate care he needed. I could be totally wrong. But if that is happening now it should be cited as it would strengthen the argument since right now it seems unusual and unlikely this would occur.
I suspect that no-one can get an SBA loan for a brand new business with no customers. And I wish I were wrong. I really need to find out as I would love such a loan. I would critique Obama by saying neither Julia or the man will get that SBA loan. SBA loans are for established medium sized businesses that have positive income and can afford lawyers and the like, and they shouldn’t be.
But if Julia can get the SBA loan but not James, that should also be cited and castigated.
The idea that Julia gets an SBA loan is put forward by the Obama fable, Dr. Smith should not be held accountable for it.
As of today, according to NCD 210.1, Medicare pays for both a digital prostate exam and a PSA test for males over 50 once every 12 months. (If you got one today, don’t get another before May 4, 2013 or they won’t pay for it.)
However, one of the cost-saving measures being floated by HHS to lower costs is to lengthen the time between preventive exams for all kinds of things. (There was a LOUD outcry over increasing the time between mammograms, but it wasn’t just mammograms they were talking about changing the coverage determinations for.) If that happens and “Fred” can only have a PSA every 24 months, and he is the unlikely, unlucky man who gets a fast-growing prostate cancer, it could metastasize before it’s diagnosed and that would mean more expensive treatment that Medicare may or may not cover.
(Yes, I do oncology billing…and yes, I hate the Affordable Care Act.)
An opinion piece requires citation? And why is it that only this one piece of conjecture requires citation? You seemed disinterested in citation for any other facet of the article but this one. I find that odd.
A more likely scenario for Julia’s business interest is that she becomes the puppet majority owner for a small-disadvantaged-business-set-aside government contractor. Given that quotas exist today in government contracting for minority-owned business, a large contractor will pay Julia’s company above-market rates for some service as a subcontractor. In turn, Julia, who owns 51% of the company but has absolutely nothing to do with running it, is paid a six-figure salary for the use of her name atop the company org chart, and to show up at official functions. She in turn spends this money on being a socialite, and in making hefty donations to the Democratic Party and to the local university’s Women’s Center.
You could be mistaken. It looks like the Brits still assist the dialysis in over 65 folks. I’m not for Obamacare, just against mis-information. http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Dialysis/Pages/Introduction.aspx
If you assume Julia and Fred are both born today, even the most optimistic projections have Medicare running out of money by the time they’re 12. Should they reach 65, Medicare won’t be able to afford coverage for band-aids, much less prostate exams.
My father started a small construction company and applied to SBA for a loan.He was told that to qualify for the loan, my father would have to either have a woman as a partner or a minority.
Compare the mortality for prostate cancer in the US vs the UK or Sweden. It’s easy enough to find, and I don’t want you thinking I’m cherry-picking.
Who wrote this ? A composite also ?
Every PJ Media has a byline at the bottom. You need only look.
This particular article is credited to Dr. Helen Smith, who is a real person, not a composite. If you don’t know who she is, read this:
http://www.blogger.com/profile/14833129354819564010
She is also married to Glenn Reynolds, the Instapundit. And if you don’t know who THAT is, well, I can’t help you.
You should also google Instawife, and Instapundit + Puppy + Blender.
It will enlighten you on the seedy underbelly of the blogger community.
I don’t want to live in this world. I don’t want my husband or son to have to live in this world.
There’s no man in Julia’s life because that’s a feature of Obama policy. The government and, by extension, Obama himself, replaces the need (dare I say even the want? for a husband. Just look at the absolute presence of government in Julia’s life. It’s not as if they failed to downplay it; they trumpet it as something desirable. Disgusting.
Not to sound like a prude, but notice that having sex prior to a committed relationship (and God Forbid) marriage causes trouble. Today, tomorrow, 1,000 years ago, its the same. Some rules just can’t be broken without a price. A gross generalization I know, and not to the point of the article necessarily, but to a different and in my oppinion more important point: get drunk have great sex and 17 , 99% of the time, no problem. 1% have a a pregnancy or get accused of rape or whatever, and now there is an issue. Maybe a child no one wants or is ready to take care of. Just BAD for society, bad for the individual. As a father of 4 sons, I plead with them regularly to be responsible and refrain from just giving in to their instincts!
But here is the rub – why would a successful man want to get into a committed relationship these days? He’s risking too much, unless he knows his prospective mate is rich.
Why would a woman want an man who isn’t already a financial success? As Julia knows, she can get more cash out of the government as a single mother and use the courts to pry more cash out of Fred’s pockets.
Big government destroys everything it touches, including families.
Yeah, that’s the funny thing, how conventional morality frequently aligns with pragmatic, common good sense, and the exercise of either in our lives would keep us out of a hell of a lot of trouble. Common sense is devalued, however, because there’s no degree program for it, and conventional morality is devalued as the terrible scheme to keep everybody oppressed.
It’s almost like traditional morality is based on thousands of years of societal evolution and experience…
I married. Wife decided to be a lesbian and divorced. I paid child support, and was sued by Texas for not having paid child support depite having paid and being current (canceled checks signed by ex-wife) but clerical mistake by Texas child support office meant more than canceled checks and signatures. Paid more child support. Almost lost security clearance and job, but the ability to produce canceled checks signed by the ex-wife permitted me to keep a lower level clearance, which restrices job opportunities and promotions, but permits continued employment.
Wife falsely accused me of child molestation. Court held that no such molestation occured, but children should be withheld anyways because realizing that the mother would lie would be too hard on the children. Wife not prosecuted for perjury. Haven’t seen children in years. Wife moved to address unknown. Provided a mail box away from the house, and told the kids that their father didn’t mail them.
Married? Why?
My condolences. Had an acquaintance who went through something similiar. Wife decided she was gay and moved in with her gym instructor, taking their 2 year old son, about the time she went off her meds for her bi-polar disorder.
My divorce case has been running for almost two years now. I was served with divorced and I counter-petitioned with annulment for fraudulent inducement to marry. Wife and her family hid and did not disclose some type of high functioning autism, possibly Asperger’s Syndrome or PDD-NOS. Her family members include two doctors (one a department head at hospital with 50% ownership of a 100 doctor private practice) and her brother has a PhD in psychology. Was gaslighted by family for six years, who dissembled that nothing was wrong. Got a psychiatrist to state she only had ADD and had a therapist pose as marriage counselor to tell me “not everyone has the same abilities.” I had a court appointed forensic psychologist who told me my ex-wife has been treated by at least three psychologists and a long term therapist. It turns out that the psychiatrist and the marriage counselor was two of the four!!
Fraud and conspiracy by the family and doctors. I stopped believing the stories when my daughter started rejecting her mother because of the empathy deficits and the “constellation of symptoms” which are part of Asperger’s. The Guardian Ad Litem I had appointed has refused to release the forensic psychiatrist’s report and I have to get a court order for same. I suspect he has an ongoing relationship with at least one of the doctors involved in the fraud, and he knows I’m going after their licenses.
I went to see the chief assistant state attorney who told me “it’s not a crime for a doctor to lie to you” My ex-mother in law sold the house to pay for the case, as she was the mastermind in the fraud. My ex-wife could’t change a tire if her life depended on it.
She is a Registered Nurse, but has had twelve nursing jobs in six years of marriage.
I’m doing all this for my daughter’s sake, because everyone in this toxic family are all pathological narcissists and habitual liars. I married in my late thirties and had significant assets. Against the advice of attorney friends, I did not have my wife sign a pre-nup, because I thought it would sour the marriage. Unfortunately ethics, integrity, honor are in short supply today. I am appalled by what doctors and attorneys (the guardian at Litem) will do to cover up for their cronies. This is as bad as the Sandusky case at Penn State
DonM:
If what you say here is verifiably true, I would not vote to convict you.
Just sayin’
DonM:
Same thing happened to my brother, including two trials. The whole experience convinced me that the government is the enemy.
Good luck to you.
It is actually fairly common for women working in the court system, especially the clerks, to “lose” or “misplace” paperwork, filings, motions, etc, anything submitted by a man in regards to a family/divorce/custody/etc issue.
Some of them openly brag about how they set aside documents/motions submitted by men, “forgetting” where they were placed, and they only “find” the documents after the deadline has passed or after the hearing has been held.
Marriage = Alimony, Child Support, Half of your Assets
No Marriage = Child Support
You can be more accurate in saying that you should really get to know a person before you risk a baby. All of the above could of happened with a 4 year marriage too.
The Gods Of The Copybook Headings will have their way.
Alternate ending: Zach learns his mother had artificial insemination and is devastated by the idea that his worth is little more than ejaculating into a plastic cup for the benefit of a woman he’ll never know. Zach commences to destroy every sperm bank he can find and becomes Public Enemy No. 1 for American women.
I think I read another dystopian future scenario that was much more entertaining than this hollow and mean spirited crud.
“Make Room Make Room” by harry harrison.
You know, it was “adapted” in to a movie…. “Soylent Green is… People…!”
Perhaps this latest stuff here can now try for…. “Zachary is… A GUY…!”
Keith, thank you for allowing me to rant about Soylent Green.
First, we are not in any danger of overpopulation. The problem is lack of morality and excessive gov’t. We could easily feed three times the number of folk we have.
Second, suppose that there was an actual problem with not enough food. If you eat one pound of lettuce and carrots and potatoes and beans you produce one-tenth of a pound of muscle. Or, for every ten pounds of veggies, you get one pound of muscle.
Now this is true whether you’re a cow or a man. If you eat ten pounds of cow, then you produce one pound of muscle also.
Now if from desperation, you eat ten pounds of man, you also produce one pound of muscle.
Now that ten pounds of man converted backwards to cow is a hundred pounds and backwards to veggies is a thousand pounds. So you just ate a thousand pounds of veggies in the Soylent Green scenario for one pound of muscle in your body.
Or you could just eat a thousand pounds of veggies, and that would be worth a hundred pounds of muscle to you. In other words, you’d be fed for a substantial portion of the year instead of for a few days.
Like a lot of Lefty ideas, when the rubber meats (heh) the road, they just don’t work.
And don’t even get me started on Waterworld.
keithp,
‘Mean spirited’? Even though this, and worse, is done to men on a daily basis.
You, keithp, are a mangina. A member of the ‘third gender’ forming in the West.
One suspects the Dr. might actually like the horrid brutes.
Man-lover! Alert the Commissioner!
I get it – this is 1984, the book.
Julia is Julia from the book and her boyfriend who impregnates her is Winston Smith from the book. Guess who is Big Brother from the book!? I think we all know the answer to that! LOL
Great catch, David.
I’m glad to know I’m not the only one to pick up on this. First, Forward, and, now, Julia. Obama is telling the world, in no uncertain terms, who and what he is, that’s sure. Let’s hope and try to ensure all this backfires on him.
I think this was the favorite song of Julia’s father…..
THE MEN IN MY LITTLE GIRL’S LIFE
(Mary Candy / Eddie Deane / Gloria Shayne)
Mike Douglas – 1966
Also recorded by: Tex Ritter (!)
The men in my little girl’s life
The men in my little girl’s life
It seems like only yesterday when I heard my little girl say
“Daddy, there’s a boy ouside, his name is Rod
He wants to play in our backyard
Can he daddy? Can he daddy? Oh please daddy”
Is it really so long ago she’d come to me and she’d wanna know
“Dad, there’s a boy outside, his name is Lee
He wants to carry my books for me
Can he daddy? Is it alright, dad? He’s got freckles, dad”
The men in my little girl’s life
The men in my little girl’s life
Then came pony tails and jeans and my little girl was in her teens
“Popsie, there’s a boy outside, his name is Tom
He wants to take me to the prom
OK, popsie? He’s cute, popsie. We’ll be home early, popsie”
Before I knew it time had flown and how my little girl had grown
Now it was “Father, there’s a boy outside, his name is Eddie
He wants to know if we can go steady
Can we, father? Yes, father. Oh, can we borrow the car, pop?”
Yes it seems only yesterday I heard my lovely daughter say
“Dad, there’s a boy outside, his name is Jim
He asked me if I’d marry him. I said yes, dad
Got something in your eye, dad? I love him, dad”
The men in my little girl’s life
The men in my little girl’s life
A child, an adolescent, a young lady, a wife
And, oh yes, there’s another man in my little girl’s life
“Hi dad, there’s a boy outside, his name is Tim
I told him Grampa was gonna babysit him
Thanks, dad. Bless you, dad. Good night, dad”
The men in my little girl’s life
The men in my little girl’s life
Interestingly funny.
You don’t mention in order for college loans to stay at their current cheap interest rate, that the money has to come from somewhere, unless Obummer is going to magically get his marxist friends to help.
What they may need to do is cut some of the money to Pell Grants. IF Julia qualifies for a Pell Grant (these grants were meant for those near or in poverty). So maybe cutting the nose off despite the face.
Also, you made no mention of Julia became pregnant.
So unrealistic … Julia would have aborted her baby.
How many Zachs of the world will have a vasectomy? Better than having to take the word of the Julias of the world that (honest) they’re On The Pill.
Just imagine Julia’s frustration when That Pregnancy doesn’t show up…
BTW, I notice that a lot of guys are preemptively have That Minor Operation.
The abortion rate by the time of Malia Obama’s administration will be so rampant that the government will have to set up a Designated Breeders Program. Only men from the ruling class will be able to donate sperm so that specially-selected women can be inseminated. Other women who are pre-selected for their social consciousness, feminist credentials, and other state-approved traits will participate in raffles to be selected as the adoptive mothers of the specially-bred infants.
Or, perhaps, the government will clone more little Bozos to do menial work. We will call them Gamma Bozos.
So are you suggesting certain wives would have a haindmaid?
“haindmaid” was meant to read “handmaid”.
The lunacy of the leftist statists continues in their Orwellian tradition of doublespeak…
the “War on Women” is actually a War on Men.
It’s actually a war on humanity. It emasculates men and defeminizes women.
Devastatingly brilliant. And worse, all too believable.
“Pledge me thy troth for four more years, and I will pledge the government’s to thee forever more.” —Barack Obama—
That is a very disturbing portrait Dr. Smith. Horrifying.
George Orwell would be proud.
Julia, is a fabrication,!! As is everything else in obamas resume, and life. !!
the daily mail has O’s girlfriend from new york- he was 22, she was 25- she has him lounging around, bare-chested, in a sarong.
Obama’s wearing the dress, now?
Obama wears skirts?
Or if he does finally decide to go, he finds himself sitting through lectures on why men are to blame for the ills of the world.
Unless he majors in math, or engineering, or physics.
Your histrionics are often as laughable as Obama’s.
Shame on you, Heather, for trivializing the outright dehumanization of men and boys.
Feminism, far from helping women, has actually exposed the full array of female limitations far more visibly than ever could have been possible before feminism.
How about when (if?) he gets a job, and has to sit thru the sexual harrassment seminar?
Dr. Helen,
Your histrionics are often as disgusting as Obama’s, or Al Sharpton’s.
If your ambition is to become another big-time conservative pundit, please exploit another issue.
Men have real problems to deal with, without having to deal with this crap.
What a useless mangina you are. A pathetic loser.
Dr. Helen is pointing out actual laws that are enforced every day. For you to shoot her down is merely evidence of extreme cowardice and moral emptiness on your part.
Keith, you are part of the third gender forming in the west :
Pickup artists want to have sex with women.
Women want to have sex with pickup artists.
Keith gets to pay the bills.
Everybody reaches their maximum potential, so everybody wins!
Dr. Helen,
I wrote that pissed. It was mean. I’m sorry. Here’s what I should have said:
I appreciate your genuine interest in the problems men face.
What you’ve written on pjmedia seems, in my cursory reading, to focus on dramatic anecdotes and potential problems, i.e., biased laws. That’s grist for the grievance mill, and it doesn’t actually solve problems. (How many people has Al Sharpton materially helped, besides himself?) I don’t think you see Rev. Al as a role model, but I do see a lot of grievance mongering in your writing, at least here.
Men face real problems in American. We can solve them, and America will be better for their solution, but not if men embrace victimhood and join grievance choirs. “Men embracing victimhood” — I’d like to think that’s laughable, but some days I just don’t know — that certainly would be part of the problem. And, Dr. Helen, I think you want to be part of the solution
Toads: I certainly can understand that what I wrote pissed you off. I have to say, I’m not worthy of your intense insults. I’m just a working stiff; I’m not nearly that interesting.
Wait till the Title IX secret police get done with the STEM programs.
Spot on Helen… alternatively, he can decide to ‘come out’ as a homosexual or as a transsexual and be a closet heterosexual in his private life.
How many men have so far resorted to officially changing their sexuality to the tolerated and supported versions?
If you can’t beat them, join them!
If everyone does this, their efforts peacounting of ‘special’ people becomes useless!
Funny you say that. My husband and I were joking the other day that maybe we should pretend we divorced, but were one of those happy divorced couples like on TV. Or to give the impression that we were fake married beards who are “secretly” gay, but really secretly secretly a married heterosexual couple. Then we would not have to be outcasts.
“Zachary at 37 doesn’t want to end up like his dad and, after years of facing his own discrimination for the crime of being born male in Obama’s regime, he starts a movement to get revenge on the system that has oppressed him and his father. Civilization is never the same.”
That movement already exists, you know. It’s often referred to as Islamism or Islamofascism. Sometimes God works in not so mysterious ways…
Don’t forget that misogynist non-western cults such as islam are already given a protected status here in the west from all misandrist infidel laws to the point that it almost makes you wonder if the left is counting on the MGTOW movement being co-opted by islam, a potential outcome that should terrify all civilised people.
Even Islam is not as misogynist as US feminism is misandrist. And I don’t say that lightly.
Remember that under polygamy, those who suffer most are beta males, not women. The US dating market of single people is de facto polygamy already. All women pursue the top man, and ignore the bottom 80% of men.
Genital mutilation? When a man gets castrated by a woman, female celebrities laugh about it on national TV.
That is why the upside of training hard to become a pickup artist is very, very rewarding.
Being from the crazy uncle of the west aka the UK, I can tell you that its just as bad here though it seems like the only organised anti-misandrist groups waiting in the wings are islamic groups / brotherhood fronts and there is no way in hell I’m allying with the likes of such people.
While I myself have grown to not feel any loyalty or affection towards a misandrist system I do not benefit from nor have any stake in defending, I still feel conflicted as to whether traditional or religious relationships / marriages are worth it or not (I know secular relationships / marriage are a lost cause) though I am not really in a position to benefit from learning how to become a PUA in order to achieve such an end (after all many have said that one cannot turn a party girl into a wife).
Some in the Manosphere advocate expating from collapsing western countries, marrying foreign women and forgoing western women, though in my case I have religious objections which preclude me from going down that route (apart from expating) and would rather do more than go Ghost.
“..marrying foreign women and forgoing western women..”
I, and many expats I know, did with no regrets.
There is an up-to-date summary of today’s Islamofascism at
http://www.strategypage.com/htmw/htwin/articles/20120504.aspx
“They have sex and Julia tells him she is on the pill.”
You meant Julia didn’t cry rape after sex? The man-rapist got off light.
While is much is being said on the lack of a man in Julia’s adulthood I reflect on the lack of a man and a woman in her childhood years? Did she have a dad? a mom? Did they not participate in her life? Teach her to save money and be independent? Anything?
She has Obama, who else does she need?
Dr. Helen’s book will do very well. Better than many expect.
It is the right subject.
At the right time.
By the right person.
Thank you.
No, thank you, Doc. You are one of the very few that is willing to speak out about the elephant that’s been in the room for about 5 decades and getting larger every year. We aren’t supposed to talk about it though. That wouldn’t be “manly.”
When I was a kid in school, the boys always came after the girls. “Girls First” was a mantra even in the late 60s and continued throughout my school years. I never questioned it because I was taught that men were supposed to take care of and protect women and I was fine with that.
My first job out of college was building railroad track in an open pit iron mine in northern Minnesota, since there were no available jobs in my chosen field during the Carter years. It was tough work and during the winter, we worked outside in minus 30-degree weather. We had a crew of 8; 6 guys and 2 women and traveled from the main building down to the pit in an old school bus that we had to keep running all day so it wouldn’t freeze up. The women were paid the same rate as the men but stayed on the bus all day except to walk to the portable restrooms, so the 6 guys had to do the work of an 8-man crew. Our foreman would come by every once in a while to check our work but never challenged the girls. That was my first taste of the new, feminized working world. Whenever I heard the “equal pay for equal work” rant from then on, it rang pretty hollow. I’m not making a blanket statement that women don’t work as hard as men but it happens to have been my experience.
I’ve seen things go even further against males since then – I see it times 10 these days. The most difficult aspect of the new misandry was what I had to endure raising my son and dealing with the feminist, anti-male teachers he was subjected to all his life. I was often in the position of having to talk him through things that were “not fair” and try to keep him from becoming a woman hater as an adult. It’s hard to explain to a 7-year old boy why he got punished for doing something wrong but the girls who did the same thing did not.
I think I succeeded pretty well but it’s still tough for him as a senior in college trying to get ready to compete in the job market when he graduates.
I won’t bore you with any more anecdotes, but I think it says a lot when the only people who are even remotely credible to defend discrimination against males are women. And I don’t see a lot of other women lining up, so thank you again.
The unintended consequence of those feminist, anti-male teachers is that many young men become frighteningly misogynistic. Both my stepsons and most of their friends’ attitudes toward women appalled me, and they didn’t learn it at home, where they’ve hardly heard a cross word between me and their mother – and the few times they have, it was because of them. That said, they saw some ugly things between their mother and their bio father, but they were very young; they split when the boys were two and six, though the six year old in particular was far more set in his ways even at six than I could ever have imagined.
Both of them personify the attitudes of the young college aged men in Tom Wolfe’s book about modern college life published a few years back – had to go look up the name: “My Name is Charlotte Simmons.” They simply view women as a place to deposit bodily fluids. Amazingly, lots of pretty young women from putatively good families seemed eager to be treated like the “bitches and hos” the boys thought of them as. Anyone raising a daughter at or approaching college age should read that book to see what kind of environment your daughter is entering, and in many places is already in even in high school.
The oldest boy under considerable pressure from us is to marry his girlfriend of now almost ten years soon, but unless he’s had gene therapy to grow a faithful gene, I worry about the marriage. She is the now very rare “good girl,” though that phrase no longer has the meaning it had as late as the mid-’60s in any sexual sense. The younger one, now 25, is still floating from woman to women and ranges from those about his age trolled out of bars to cougars trolled out of the gym or the frozen foods aisle. The one thing they all have in common is that to him they are disposable.
Dr. Helen,
Here are another couple of sentences as food for thought :
America is often called the land of the free, and where human liberty is valued more than elsewhere. That is, until a woman decides that the father of her children is ‘boring’ to her. After that, for the man in question, America suddenly becomes North Korea.
His passport can be seized, his wages garnished so that he has to live on 20% of his original income, and he can be imprisoned at any time for non-payment, even if he loses his job. All this, while society tells him the *he* is the villain for the crime of being insufficiently attractive. In the meantime, the mother is under no obligation to prove she spent the money on the child.
There is no other country that has a multi-billion-dollar industry devoted to aggressively separating fathers and children against the will of either, the way America does.
Land of the free? Don’t make me laugh.
Ask any father who has gone through this, whether he would like to trade places with men who live in squalid third-world slums (where, if nothing else, almost all children grow up with their biological fathers). You would be surprised how many such American men would gladly trade places to live in a Mumbai or Johannesberg slum, just to be with their own children, unlike in America.
My divorce case has been running for almost two years now. I was served with divorced and I counter-petitioned with annulment for fraudulent inducement to marry. Wife and her family hid and did not disclose some type of high functioning autism, possibly Asperger’s Syndrome or PDD-NOS. Her family members include two doctors (one a department head at hospital with 50% ownership of a 100 doctor private practice) and her brother has a PhD in psychology. Was gaslighted by family for six years, who dissembled that nothing was wrong. Got a psychiatrist to state she only had ADD and had a therapist pose as marriage counselor to tell me “not everyone has the same abilities.” I had a court appointed forensic psychologist who told me my ex-wife has been treated by at least three psychologists and a long term therapist. It turns out that the psychiatrist and the marriage counselor was two of the four!!
Fraud and conspiracy by the family and doctors. I stopped believing the stories when my daughter started rejecting her mother because of the empathy deficits and the “constellation of symptoms” which are part of Asperger’s. The Guardian Ad Litem I had appointed has refused to release the forensic psychiatrist’s report and I have to get a court order for same. I suspect he has an ongoing relationship with at least one of the doctors involved in the fraud, and he knows I’m going after their licenses.
I went to see the chief assistant state attorney who told me “it’s not a crime for a doctor to lie to you” My ex-mother in law sold the house to pay for the case, as she was the mastermind in the fraud. My ex-wife could’t change a tire if her life depended on it.
She is a Registered Nurse, but has had twelve nursing jobs in six years of marriage.
I’m doing all this for my daughter’s sake, because everyone in this toxic family are all pathological narcissists and habitual liars. I married in my late thirties and had significant assets. Against the advice of attorney friends, I did not have my wife sign a pre-nup, because I thought it would sour the marriage. Unfortunately ethics, integrity, honor are in short supply today. I am appalled by what doctors and attorneys (the guardian at Litem) will do to cover up for their cronies. This is as bad as the Sandusky case at Penn State
Anyone who says that a pre-nup will ‘sour the marriage’ is extremely deluded and cruel.
If anything, prenups make the marriage better. Even if pre-nups are sometimes tossed out, the uncertainly around that is often what prevents a woman from attempting to cash out of her marriage.
In a system where ALL the power is given to the one who wants out of the marriage, and NONE is granted to the one who wants to preserve the marriage.
Toads, keep your mouth shut, you scandalizer! You murderer of souls! You encourage fornication masquerading as marriage! You approve of adultery! A marriage entered half-heartedly is no marriage at all. The solution is to make marriage indissoluble. We need to ban divorce (or at least ban unilateral divorce) and criminalize adultery. That will give the betrayed spouse TOTAL control over the betrayer’s fate.
I’ve decided to think outside the box and be a man anyway. There are plenty of Julia’s out there, attractive as they are, who are just bait on a hook. the thing about bait to those of us who can reason things out is: You don’t have to take it. You also don’t have to waste your time being offended just because its been cast your way. Reserve your invitation for the one who is intersted in enjoying your strengths rather than exploiting your weakess.
“Reserve your invitation for the one who is intersted in enjoying your strengths rather than exploiting your weakess.”
Good advice. Unfortunately, situations change and people change. Even with the best of intentions and the greatest insight, things can go wrong. The problem is that the government and legal system side with the woman in general, meaning that men have only as many rights as a woman is willing to grant them. This is why it is so important to work to make sure the legal system and government are fair to both sexes.
yeah, it’s weird. my husband comes home, sits on the couch, and gets everything handed to him. dinner, tv remote, x-box controller, his drink if he wants one. then he goes to bed when he wants. Why?
because he gets up when his job wants. and he works 60+ hours a week.
I get to do what I want to do- raise kids. Of course he’s the king of our house, and the prince charming in my life. I’m not brain- dead. I want a fat, happy, cuddled, respected, worshipped man around the house.
For this, I get called a submissive doormat. By women working 60+ hours a week, paying crazy day-care rates. Their kids are getting mistreated in daycare. They make complaints to the state. They’re shocked! shocked! that strangers don’t love their kids the way they do.
The kids: he’s their best friend, their hero, their advisor. They work to make him proud. He’s King Dad. What more could he want?
I wish every guy could have what my guy has.
Bless you, ma’am. I wish the best for your husband in his professional life and I hope that the two of you have as long a happy life together as humanly possible.
thanks. it took work to get here. he works around women with kids in daycare. he unloaded on me once, for being, I don’t know- unambitious. so I got a job. within three months, the kids started failing school- down from A+ honor society, no home-cooked food, no house-cleaning- and my pay got sucked up into doctor bills and babysitters for when they were sick. I was sick the whole time, too, so no nookie, no bringing him dinner, no making dinner, nothing. just work and sleep and cough and throw up. no listening, no talking, no intimacy. nothing.
he noticed- the women’s kids- on ritalin. or stronger.
he wised up.
I wasn’t show-boating. He knew I had a chronic health condition that I kept under control, when we got married.
He’s the greatest guy I know. I’m so proud of how we are raising our kids. I love that the kids vie to be strong, and smart and manly like him. They are better than anyone I knew, growing up.
I love that our daughter thinks she’s a perfect princess. She says she’ll marry her favorite guy, just like a taylor swift video, and have babies. She practices cooking, and cleaning. She reads to her dolls.
I want us to be together when we are old, not divorcing him when the kids are grown. Kids are hard work. We’re in this together. He’s interesting, and he’s been here for all the best parts of my life.
These are the gifts he’s given me. Why wouldn’t I cherish him?
Leah, you sound like a treasure. So many women I know have husbands who work 60+ hour weeks and come home to complaints that “they aren’t carrying their fair share of the housework.” It’s as if the job that the man does outside the house, which makes the household possible, doesn’t exist. Everything starts at square one when he walks in through the door.
I know a LOT of men who a) wish they had never married, and b) think that if they had known then what they know now, they certainly would not have married a Western woman. When I hear these men describe Western women, the words that ALWAYS come out are fat, lazy, entitled, selfish, etc. To say these men hold them in contempt would be to be guilty of serious understatement.
The daughters of today’s Western women are going to live a much harder life because they are going to live it in a world where a lot of men simply DO NOT LIKE WOMEN. These men will see them as phony, scheming liars who use feigned love and affection to latch on to someone they can suck resources from just like a sea lamprey to a lake trout. Marriage as we’ve known it will change radically or simply disappear. Chivalry? Forget that. Women killed it stone dead. It’s over just like white guilt. Those days are gone and they won’t be coming back.
Women may not have liked the deal they had pre-feminism but I guarantee there will be a lot of women who will sure wish they had it back compared to what they’ll have in the future.
well, there’d better be at least three other happy families with marriage-positive kids. I want grandchildren. Ann Romney’s family picture looks just about right, you know?
So- here’s a deal- I’ll raise a daughter who knows the value of marriage to a good man, and you raise a son who will worship her as the treasure she is. I’m raising gentlemen sons, too. They’ll need wonderful wives.
hey, my life has been made less pleasant already. I’ve got stratospheric SAT scrores. I was in competitive academic classes the whole way through school. I got promoted every job, ever. We researched how to build a solid family. We researched how to raise good kids. Getting called stupid, lazy, dependent, foolish, doormat, a parasite….not cool. not cool at all.
I am at the point of being bitter and kind of vengeful, something I’d never thought I’d be. I tried to be nice to single mothers in my neighborhood, and they’d try to have an affair with my husband. Not cool. Anyone who tries to pry a married man off his newborn child and wife deserves to burn in hell, b/c they’d mess up an infant for life, if the dad didn’t have great character.Married women don’t seem to prey on new fathers.
My husband was of good character- he wouldn’t go off alone with any of them, no matter what- “the sink is leaking” ” I need help with this class” ” the professor teamed us up for this project” ” I’m your boss and we need to drive to this other city, tonight, for a meeting in the morning.” He got the class reassignment, he got up at 4 am to drive to the other city, he called a plumber…. it was like Wile E Coyote and the road-runner.
I’d vote for a Reagan who proposed a war on welfare queens and always single moms. totally. they seem to have declared war on my family. I’d like Uncle Sam to get out of the ho’ harem business, entirely. Uncle Sam can weaponize anything- turning regular sluts into weapons of family and social destruction.
Your husband is a lucky man. As am I. But I do know how biased the legal system is against men, I was once a single father.
I’m glad you found someone to cherish you. I’m glad you are happy, and count yourself lucky, and well-loved.
Jesus wasn’t talking about animals when He referred to shepherds and hirelings reacting differently to the sheep being in danger. The daycare provider is a hireling who wouldn’t lay down her life for your children, whereas you would.
The reaping is already started. None of my son’s mates at uni want a steady girl-friend. Sex is easy and a lot of them say if they are ever nuts enough to marry, it’s with a non-American girl.
Good luck, ladies. The guys are ditching…
The other side of the guys ditching committed relationships is that a huge percentage of young women today, especially college educated women, have some experience with lesbian relationships. These days, if there’s not a guy around, there’s always some vagitarian to curl her toes.
The Beatles said it best: “Half of what I say is meaningless/But I say it just to reach you, Julia.”
Excellently written.. frightening and necessary – we should spread this far and wide!
It really looks like the “war on women” nonsense is true-speak for what has really been going on for the last couple decades: a brutal and merciless war on American men
“Luckily, he sees a good-looking girl and approaches her. They get drunk one night and have great sex. The next week, however, he is summoned by the college administration and told that he raped this girl and is expelled from school without much evidence or any due process due to Obama’s “Dear Colleague Letter.”
Here’s an alternate ending: He comes back a few weeks later, blows her away, and faces first-degree murder charge in a state court. There at least, he will be judged for a crime that can be objectively measured, presumed innocent, and at a trial in which the state has the burden of proof that he is guilty beyond a reasonable doubt (compared to the “preponderance of evidence” standard used in the school’s own kangaroo court).
After his conviction, he spends the rest of his life in prison on the taxpayers’ dime. Not what he wanted, but with the possibility that this might be a better outcome.
Enough Zacks doing this (like George Sodini) and maybe society takes notice.
Do not promote violence. Violence is what Feminists do, through their State benefactors.
I’m not promoting or advocating violence. I am simply offering the possibility of an alternative outcome that might become a reality if enough men realize that feminism is conducting a war against them and decide to do something about it.
No, I’m not backing down. I’m just saying that if pushed hard enough, more men will do what you advocate.
Mothers, don’t let your daughters marry the government.
Fathers, don’t let your sons marry at all.
Awesome post, Dr. Helen.
I note that Julia’s first ‘benefit’ comes at age 3, and the last one mentioned occurs at age 67. Both, 64 years apart, are proclaimed to be ‘under Obama’. Is he really declaring an intention to become emperor for life?
No, but he is declaring that Obamacare is a gateway to euthanasia, where most people will not be allowed to live past 67, as it would be costly.
Death panels and all.
Of course, women lose more from this than men, since women live longer in the absence of euthanasia. So they are being robbed of more years than men would be.
Just as we live with policies and laws put in place by prior Presidents and Congresses, we’ll be living with the consequences of President Obama’s policies for years to come.
There IS a place in this world for trashed males:Islam.When Al Qaeda figures this out it’ll recruit these insulted injured and degraded Western men and boys;Fred will become Ahmed,and he’ll put Western so-called “civilization”to the sword.
“Western civilization to the sword” Whether it is Islam or another woman hating cult, this is a very real consideration. Men, when shunned and left alone, revert to destructive ways that “polite” society cannot even imagine.
We do live in interesting times. I have often thought that racial hatred while a certain evil is nothing in comparison to the difficulties between the sexes we see today. What could be more fundamentally destructive to a society than to have feral men. This is a problem that I hope is corrected for the sake of the future of Western civilization.
It could be argued that the religious / ideological foundation is already there and waiting to be constructed, it is just a matter of branding modern women the Daughters of Lilith (a figure misandrists already draw inspiration from) / Pseudo-Lilith (Corrupted Eve) while calling yourselves the Sons of Adam / Bene Adam, adopting a modified matrilineal variant of the Serpent Seed idea and employing Marxist terminology casting alienated / disenfranchised men as the proletariat and modern women (along with alpha men and others who profit from such a system) being the bourgeoisie, with the former rallying against the current system where physical attractiveness / lookism (along with wealth, status, “personality”, connections, etc and lack of) ultimately decides who benefits from such current system and who doesn’t.
Then we had better get to work at converting them first. For those that can make their peace with it, the priesthood or the monastery can be their purpose or their refuge.
Buckeye Abroad
“I, and many expats I know, did with no regrets.”
Am happy for you and hope to merit joining the club soon (am myself a dual-national anyway though currently experiencing complications that prevent me from expating).
Thank you and hope you find your own happiness.
Funny, but I notice alot of western men, both American and European, are foresaking westeren women and marrying & raising families with foreign women. Although maybe I just notice the sub-cultures as not being born and raised amongst the native population.
BTW- It was once noticed by a former employer of mine, that everytime we sent a single American male manager to Eastern Europe (Prague or Warsaw mainly) to work on a project for a year or two he came back married. It was funny because it was true.
Is there not concerns though about western misandrist influances creeping up in other parts of the world or via the missus being corrupted by western misandry in the event that one returns with his foreign born wife / kids to the west?
“Is there not concerns though about western misandrist influances creeping up in other parts of the world or via the missus being corrupted by western misandry in the event that one returns with his foreign born wife / kids to the west?”
Depends on the culture the misses was raised in and the values she keeps. I’ve found that many women outside of the west cherish a good husband and desire a family. As my wife once said, “A real woman has, and takes care of, a family.” That’s coming from a highly educated woman from the former Soviet Union whose parents were party members.
I asked her opinion once on westenrn feminism, as she has been living and working here for a half decade before we met, and she exclaimed, “they should call feminism what it really is– lesbianism.”
I like the revenge part. Let’s get started.
I thought Julia must be the composite Obama girl friend.
Obama strikes me as a guy who never did well with women until he recently became famous.
I mean, he married a girl who was not pretty by any means, and quite possibly not a very nice woman either. I mean, most middle-class guys, black or white, do better.
Also, given that in the age of mass media, he cannot have affairs as easily as his Democrat predecessors (Clinton, LBJ, JFK), even in the face of various sluts throwing themselves at him (for the first time in his life) means his frustration might be pretty high….
Feh…. as a narcissist metrosexual his own “company” is all he wants or needs.
Better yet, if the Mrs found out that he was philandering, she’d cut his off in a second. She may not want any from him while she goes about getting whatever SHE wants, but she’ll be damned if she can’t “control her man”. No one else can have him, either.
(This is assuming he’s heterosexual. The mom jeans and bicycle helmet suggest otherwise)
Julia reminds me more of Obama’s mother.
spread the wealth with the caveat that eventually we run out of other people’s money and there are no funds for anything, and the country becomes Greece II.
But we should remember President Reagan and what he said about liberals that was spot on then as it is now. The problem with liberals is that they know so much that isn’t so.
Iwas going to comment that there was another male in the story but then realized I was wrong.
Mike
I believe the more accurate title for this article would have been, “The Metrosexuals in Julia’s Life.”
Men wouldn’t put up with “Julia” and me thinks Julia has never known a father (/ figure).
Huxleys “Brave New World” is becoming a Democrat politcal slogan. Joy.
Dr. Helen, in my opinion, is only partially right.
With respect to the law, I think she’s spot on in pointing out how skewed justice damages men. Her passion to correct this imbalance is praiseworthy. Where, in my opinion, Dr. Helen fails, is in the scope of her diagnosis: it ignores the cultural, and dare I say, the spiritual, roots of this problem.
There is a spiritual reason why utilitarianism is on the increase among us, and why so
many relationships are treated as marketable commodities. In other words, not enough of us have realized the spiritual trap that feminism has set for otherwise emotionally healthy men and women (with the lure being that very old, very dumb, stand by – carnal desire). Law by itself will not remove this trap.
Before Orwell wrote “1984″ for the English speaking world, Yevgeny Zamyatin wrote “We”. Unless we correctly diagnose the trap set for us, we’ll all end up in the very place Orwell and Zamyatin so eloquently warned us about.
JULIA – STATIST SLAVE GIRL!!!
Every man needs to vote against this a**hole… It is as simple as that…
Where is the one that shows Julia in a burka?
Zachary became “Zackia” after a frustrating childhood, which made him feel immoral as a male. The cost of the entire sex change procedure is mandated under the “gender discrimination” clause of ObamaCare.
She is living a charming life as the wife of a female CEO for an upscale New York media firm, and has no desire to ever try to conceive a child.
“Zachary became ‘Zackia’ after a frustrating childhood, which made him feel immoral as a male. The cost of the entire sex change procedure is mandated under the “gender discrimination” clause of ObamaCare.
She is living a charming life as the wife of a female CEO for an upscale New York media firm, and has no desire to ever try to conceive a child.”
Uh, it isn’t a sex CHANGE operation; it’s a sex REMOVAL operation. Zachary isn’t a women, he’s a eunuch, and he/it isn’t going to conceive anything.
Yo, Bob;
You be in Hollywood?
If not, you sharp. You oughta be.
A contrived “composite person” such as this hypothetical Julia is the incarnation of the left’s dismissal of individual exceptionalism. Started way back when afternoon soccer for toddlers became the social pastime for the now ubiquitous “soccer-moms” out there. You may remember, they didn’t keep score, everyone was a winner, everyone got trophies just for showing up.
Cookie-cutter personalities with the cardboard flavor. By eliminating the desire to be better than someone else at something the consequence is social stagnation and failure in life.
Have faith, Dr. Helen.
Somewhere in his 20′s or 30′s, young Zach notices that churchgoing people are healthier and happier, and enjoy traditional family life of a kind that he has been told is an anachronism by the news that his mother Julia consumes and that his teachers and professors reinforce.
He joins a church, meets a faithful woman, and they marry and have children, becoming part of the vanguard of the growing Catholic, Mormon, Evangelical and Muslim communities, whose demographic influence is making misguided neo-Socialist statists like Julia into extinction via abortion and contraception.
The descendants of those who breed and raise their children well are who will inherit the Earth.
Those who look no further than their own gonads and bellies will become irrelevant in the most fundamental way to the future, save for examples to be marveled at.
See: The Shakers
If you are under the misconception that churches are somehow shielded from feminism, you need to spend the next 30 days reading Dalrock’s blog.
http://dalrock.wordpress.com
Most modern churches are indistinguishable from left-wing feminism, since they take a very unbiblical view of what responsibilities women have in a marriage, and openly state that the well-being of women is more important than the well-being of men.
US churches are merely centers of misandry. They may oppose abortion, but agree with the other 99% of feminism.
“Most modern churches are indistinguishable from left-wing feminism, since they take a very unbiblical view of what responsibilities women have in a marriage, and openly state that the well-being of women is more important than the well-being of men.”
The operative words in your paragraph above are “Most” and “modern”, and perhaps this is so where you live, where I live it’s about 50/50.
It seems that the Mainline Protestant denominations seem to be having problems filling the pews, while Catholics, Mormons, and hard, pipe-hittin’, fire-and-brimstone Evangelicals are all doing rather well.
Perhaps.
But that blog is one you should read. It deeply exposes how the vast majority of churches have moved away from biblical rules of how women should behave, and into a feminist paradigm that says it is OK if a slut comes to church ate age 33, with 20 prior sexual partners, and demands a husband to be her provider. Many modern Christian leaders are stunningly hypocritical about this.
Most churches blame men for the fact that 33 year old sluts with 20 prior partners don’t have a husband.
Our exchange called to mind John 4:3-42, the Samaritan woman with the five prior husbands. excerpt:
“4:16 Jesus said to her, “Go, call your husband, and come back.” 4:17 The woman answered him, “I have no husband.” Jesus said to her, “You are right in saying, ‘I have no husband’; 4:18 for you have had five husbands, and the one you have now is not your husband. What you have said is true!”
If your church does not believe birth control is a sin, GET OUT. If your church says there’s something wrong with lifelong celibacy, GET OUT. Find a church that teaches sound doctrine, and sound doctrine includes teaching that contraception is a sin and that celibacy is more noble than marriage.
Well, Julia, Hope you enjoyed Head Start, and all the rest, because payback time is coming.
According to a US TREASURY website page, “HISTORY OF THE PUBLIC DEBT”, the public debt is $15,692,368,000, and your share and mine runs to $50,000 and change, and is growing by $5,000 a year.
See: http://www.treasurydirect.gov/govt/reports/pd/pd_debtposactrpt_0412.pdf
Did you learn Algebra, Julia? No? Well I’ll run a regression curve for you on the growth of debt since 2006.. The debt-growth curve is looking perpendicular, dear, not so good.
Things are really out of control and it is all Bush’s fault! But wait, until 2006, when the Dems won both houses, public debt was $8 trillion. It is now $15 trillion. Good work, Dems!
Julia, the money the president spent on you was borrowed from China, Japan and Saudi Arabia. Right now we are able to pay them the interest, and they kindly roll over the principal.
However, things don’t look so good for 10 or 20 years out, when the Chinese and Japanese and Saudis may object to us stiffing them on interest or even principal. Who will be America’s best negotiators? Let’s send the crack Obama team that pummelled GM’s feckless secured creditors down to 10 cents on the dollar, and gave the rest to very good friends of the new rulers.
Let’s assume our negotiators fail. Our creditors want 100 cents on the dollar. What if our creditors force us into austerity? Think Greece and the EU troika. Could be unpleasant. Google: “Retired Greek pharmacist commits suicide”. for over a million hits. Mr. Dimitris Christoulas’ suicide note said he refused to root in a garbage dump for food.
Julia, since we elect grown-ups, we should give them a chance to prevent this mess from happening, But, just in case we run short on money to pay China, Japan, and Saudi Arabia, what might they settle for instead of the cash? Property: We have Hawaii and Alaska, plus the military bases across the Pacific! Minerals? Wahoo – We could offer up our coal and oil rights in lieu of cash! Not enough? Well, we have brainy people. They want workers, serfs? Well, OK, what ages and how many?
– men, but tramps like his father and mother.
Dr. Helen
Thanks so much for writing that!
I thought it was awesome!
A++++++++
Of course you forgot age 45.
Finally realizes that foreign women are far superiour to american women. Has his passport revoked because commits “foreign poverty rape” in eastern european countries, despite everything being 100% consentual.
Dr. Smith’s scenario reminds me of “Harrison Bergeron” by Kurt Vonnegut, which begins like this:
“THE YEAR WAS 2081, and everybody was finally equal. They weren’t only equal before God and the law. They were equal every which way. Nobody was smarter than anybody else. Nobody was better looking than anybody else. Nobody was stronger or quicker than anybody else. All this equality was due to the 211th, 212th, and 213th Amendments to the Constitution, and to the unceasing vigilance of agents of the United States Handicapper General.”
Solution: Zach gets a gov. financed at Planned Sexhood and equality reigns. Better yet, as more “real” women are displaced by trans-women, the HHS Mandate ahrdly bothers the Catholic Church since the “new” woman does not need it. Just an idea, -Undecided
Thank you, Dr. Helen. You’ve neatly summed up my reaction to this whole Julia thing, and much more eloquently than I could–especially since at the time, my reaction was mainly a skin-crawling sense of disgust.
I don’t want to be taken care of cradle-to-grave! Accepting something like that means you let the government dictate the circumstances of your life, and that’s something we absolutely cannot let happen. I spent my teen years fighting a condition that was trying to dictate my life, and now I’m standing on my own; why on earth would I want to give that up?
Unfortunately, there are herds of emasculated Obama-worshiping men cheering for Julia and her ilk, possibly as a way of scoring with leftwing girls. I’m this close to giving up and becoming a crazy cat lady; it’s not worth my dignity to date a man who thinks I should be a Julia. What a mess.
‘You are the dead,’ said an iron voice behind them.
They sprang apart. Winston’s entrails seemed to have turned into ice. He could see the white all round the irises of Julia’s eyes. Her face had turned a milky yellow. The smear of rouge that was still on each cheekbone stood out sharply, almost as though unconnected with the skin beneath.
‘You are the dead,’ repeated the iron voice.
‘It was behind the picture,’ breathed Julia.
‘It was behind the picture,’ said the voice. ‘Remain exactly where you are. Make no movement until you are ordered.’
It was starting, it was starting at last! They could do nothing except stand gazing into one another’s eyes. To run for life, to get out of the house before it was too late—no such thought occurred to them. Unthinkable to disobey the iron voice from the wall. There was a snap as though a catch had been turned back, and a crash of breaking glass. The picture had fallen to the floor, uncovering the telescreen behind it.
‘Now they can see us,’ said Julia.
‘Now we can see you,’ said the voice. ‘Stand out in the middle of the room. Stand back to back. Clasp your hands behind your heads.
Do not touch one another.’
They were not touching, but it seemed to him that he could feel Julia’s body shaking. Or perhaps it was merely the shaking of his own. He could just stop his teeth from chattering, but his knees were beyond his control. There was a sound of trampling boots below, inside the house and outside. The yard seemed to be full of men. Something was being dragged across the stones. The woman’s singing had stopped abruptly. There was a long, rolling clang, as though the washtub had been flung across the yard, and then a confusion of angry shouts which ended in a yell of pain.
‘The house is surrounded,’ said Winston.
‘The house is surrounded,’ said the voice.
He heard Julia snap her teeth together.
‘I suppose we may as well say good-bye,’ she said.
‘You may as well say good-bye,’ said the voice.
And then another quite different voice, a thin, cultivated voice which Winston had the impression of having heard before, struck in:
‘And by the way, while we are on the subject, “Here comes a candle to light you to bed, here comes a chopper to chop off your head!”‘
Something crashed onto the bed behind Winston’s back.
Control Julia’s sexuality and you control Winston.
1984 Orwell
Giving up Julia is what O’Brien wanted from Winston all along. His spirit broken, Winston is released to the outside world. He meets Julia but no longer feels anything for her. He has accepted the Party entirely and has learned to love Big Brother.
Another scenario:
Julie marries an engineer, who works hard to provide money. She promises to go back to work when their child Zach starts school, but changes her mind. She demands that her husband work longer hours and get a better job so she can stay at home. When her husband points out that she isn’t really doing much at home, she sleeps in the guest room.
Her husband looks to retirement and realizes he needs to increase his 401k contribution if he doesn’t want to work past age 70, but to do so Julie needs to cut back on her expenses or get a job. She bristles at the suggestion and asks for a divorce. Because of their disparity of incomes, due to Julie REFUSING to work, she demands high alimony and the state mandates child support three times what the Zach actually costs to feed, house and clothe.
Julie’s now ex-husband pays his alimony and child support. He discovers that while things are tight, he actually has more money left at the end of the month than when he was married. He increases his 401k contributions, which leaves him with a smaller disposable income than his ex wife.
As he picks up his now teenage son, Julie’s ex-husband notices that Zach’s needs new clothes and shoes. Zach also expresses delight at being fed a prepared meal. He finally confesses that his mother has blown through all her savings and uses all of the child support for herself.