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Can Sexting Keep a Man OUT of Jail?

One mother admits she encourages her son to get a text proving consent to avoid false charges.

Helen Smith


November 29, 2013 - 3:00 pm


This is a comment over at CNN in response to an article by Roxanne Jones entitled, “Young men, get a ‘yes’ text before sex”:

It seems nearly every week, we hear news stories about sexual encounters at parties where everyone is drinking — and a young woman says she was raped, and a young man insists the encounter was consensual.

Make no mistake, no woman — no matter how much she parties — is asking to be raped. But too often when heavy drinking is involved, the meaning of consent can be misconstrued on both sides. But I know from my own fun-filled years at Penn State that campus life can be confusing even for the best of kids. So I taught him how to do his own laundry, grocery shop and cook — just so he wouldn’t have to depend on anyone else to do those things. But lately, I’ve been worried that I left out one important piece of advice that is a must-do today:

Never have sex with a girl unless she’s sent you a text that proves the sexual relationship is consensual beforehand. And it’s a good idea to even follow up any sexual encounter with a tasteful text message saying how you both enjoyed being with one another — even if you never plan on hooking up again.

Crazy, I know, but I’ve actually been encouraging my son and his friends to use sexting — minus the lewd photos – to protect themselves from being wrongly accused of rape.

I think the commenter hit the nail on the head. Why is it that women can’t think if drunk but men can? Why is it always about men controlling themselves and being responsible for any sex act while women are treated as children?


Cross-posted from Dr. Helen

image courtesy shutterstock / MJTH

Helen Smith is a psychologist specializing in forensic issues in Knoxville, Tennessee, and blogs at Dr. Helen.

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Wow. This was a mother? Just, wow.

"Get a notarized statement before you get drunk and bang a random girl like a piece of meat, son. And be sure to send a thank you note for letting her be your brainless pleasure object. Oh, yeah, and do your laundry. Those stains will be tough to get out. Have fun!"

I have no words. We have GOT to take back the culture before it really is too late.
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I'm wondering - at what Blood Alcohol Content does a woman become unfit to make reproductive decisions? Or is it really just a post coital 'get out of shame' level of absolution for her? And how is a (presumably intoxicated) man supposed to tell when the police can't without expensive tools?

What's going to provide not only a non-repudiatable proof of consent, but a certification that it was given while not under the influence, and not under duress?

I'm sure the militant gender feminists delight in this bullsh!t. What it tells me is that women are unreliable and fickle. Who'd consider a marriage with someone who holds those values?
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