What the Feminization of the West Has Wrought
As I noted in my last post, today’s young men no longer identify with the John Waynes of yesteryear. Manly men have gone the way of the dinosaur; I feel as though I snagged the last one of the modern generation.
Not only have men become more effeminate in dress and behavior, they’re taking forever to grow up. A recent Pew Research study concluded that for the first time in modern history, adults ages 18 to 34 are more likely to be living in their parents’ home than they are to be living with a spouse or partner in their own household.
And men are leading that charge.
America has been celebrating the so-called rise of women and subsequent dearth of good men for years. We complain of men’s extended state of adolescence as they take solace in gaming rather than responsibility.
Don’t blame the appeal of tech, though -- gaming is just modern man’s attempt to prove he can still hunt.
Men are now in this boat for the most obvious reason: the decline of marriage. As the senior researcher on the Pew study notes:
This turn of events is fueled primarily by the dramatic drop in the share of young Americans who are choosing to settle down romantically before age 35.
Marriage is society’s great stabilizer. It forces all of us, male and female, to focus primarily on someone else's well-being over our own. Marriage especially forces men to alter their behavior; without a wife and kids, men might be content to roam forests and kill things.
Well, that's an exaggeration -- most men truly intend to settle down, and want to settle down once the single scene loses its allure. However, they’re not typically the ones who drag their partners to the altar -- women do that. That’s the theme of most romcoms and chick lit for a reason.
The problem is that women stopped looking for husbands some time ago. Today, women set their sights on something they’ve been taught is more gratifying: work.