Advice for Grads: Stop Working So Darn Hard
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This week, I'd like to offer some Bad Advice to recent college graduates. Here are some pointers, practical and spiritual, on how to cope with adult life. Share them with a grad you know and it might actually get him or her to stop bugging you with questions about how to be a grown-up.
Personal Life: This may sound like bad advice, but pay your friends for rides, and go to a bar by yourself every once in a while.
1) Whenever a friend drives you somewhere (especially if you asked them as a favor), offer them gas money. Okay, this is less of an "adult life" thing, and more something you should have learned since you were old enough for you and your friends to drive, but it becomes more important as your friends move off their parents' bankrolls and start getting those fun student-loan notifications in the mail.
2) Friendship is a lot harder when class schedules and a multitude of school-run clubs don't bring you together on a regular basis, and you no longer live in a building full of people your age who freely socialize between rooms or suites. So, put the work in on the friendships you want to keep: schedule lunch meet-ups or happy hours, ask your friends about their days (because you are no longer spending most of it playing Rock Band or going to class together -- he might have done something you weren't there to witness!), and then honor your commitments.
3) If you feel all alone in a new city and there aren't many people your age at your office to befriend, join a Meetup group, take up a hobby, go to a networking event, and, in the meantime, while you build up your group of friends, don't be afraid to do stuff alone. Don't sit in your apartment by yourself every night because you're still getting to know folks. Some people are so scared of being seen in public without a companion that they'd rather stay inside all the time and get to know no one at all. Don't be one of those sad people.