Dr. Helen

The Cost of Missing Men

There is an interesting article in The Telegraph entitled “Shortage of eligible men has left women taking desperate steps to preserve their fertility, experts say” that laments how feminism has women freezing their eggs:

A dearth of marriagable men has left an “oversupply” of educated women taking desperate steps to preserve their fertility, experts say.

The first global study into egg freezing found that shortages of eligible men were the prime reason why women had attempted to take matters into their own hands.

Experts said “terrifying” demographic shifts had created a “deficit” of educated men and a growing problem of “leftover” professional women, with female graduates vastly outnumbering males in in many countries.

The study led by Yale University, involved interviews with 150 women undergoing egg freezing at eight clinics.

Researchers found that in more than 90 per cent of cases, the women were attempting to buy extra time because they could not find a partner to settle down with, amid a “dearth of educated men”….

Prof Marcia Inhorn, Professor of Anthopolgy at Yale University, said professional women found themselves losing out in a game of “musical chairs” because there were simply too few men of the same calibre to go around.

“There is a major gap – they are literally missing men. There are not enough college graduates for them. In simple terms, this is about an oversupply of educated women,” she said…

The anthropologist suggested some women might need to be prepared to compromise some of their standards in order to find love. But she suggested society should act to increase the number of men going into higher education.

“It may be about rethinking the way we approach this,” she said.

“Most women who are educated would like to have an educated partner. Traditionally women have also wanted to ‘marry up’ to go for someone more successful, financially well off.”

“Maybe women need to be prepared to be more open to the idea of a relationship with someone not as educated. But also may be we need to be doing something about our boys and young men, to get them off to a better start.”

Some women were paying a high price for feminism, she suggested.

Gee, ya think? I have a problem with these articles viewing everything through the lens of women and what they want and need. But at least a few “enlightened experts” are finally getting it through their thick skulls that boys and young men need to get a better start in life. But that would mean that society would need to make changes to the culture of male bashing and hostility on college campuses towards men and give young men more incentives to go into higher education.

And I agree that women need to be more open to men who work in a variety of fields, not just the professional ones. That said, I do think there are some very good women out there who do not have men in their lives and who would like to, and that is sad. But they probably don’t understand the dynamic of how modern feminism has turned men away from women and commitment and may even embrace feminism and a culture of misandry without realizing the consequences, until it is too late and they are paying thousands of dollars to freeze their eggs.

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