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How Your Child’s Rebellion Mirrors Your Own

You wish they trusted you. God knows how you feel.

Walter Hudson


June 30, 2013 - 1:00 pm
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We covet our children’s trust. Young children follow our lead with particular eagerness. However, their trust has limits. Instinct and a nascent capacity for reason which depends more on imagination than knowledge occasionally override the comforting influence of Mom and Dad.

Doctor visits prove especially difficult with my four year old. No child greatly enjoys being poked and prodded by a stranger in a weird setting with scary-looking implements. Even so, my son’s response to doctors lands on the extreme end of the spectrum, reacting to an ear exam in much the way I might to waterboarding.

A recent illness proved trying for all parties concerned. Noting an aggressive infection in both ears, the doctor prescribed an external and internal antibiotic. For ten days, we had to administer ear drops morning, noon, and night, on top of an oral suspension. For ten days, we had to wrestle our son to the ground and struggle against his full might to force the medication upon him. Each episode was torturous for him and us. For him, because he may not have understood what was going on and did not consent regardless. For us, because we could offer little comfort aside from the assurance that the deed was for his own good and would be over soon.

In such moments, I wish I could meld my mind to his and upload my knowledge and experience. I wish I could convey now the wherewithal which will someday enable him to endure life’s medication. Of course, if I could do that, my job as parent would be done.

Unable to flash our knowledge to our children’s minds, we mete it out over time, drilling through repetition past layers of doubt, pride, and rebellion. Until we succeed, until our children reach a point beyond which they can effectively care for themselves, we act as custodian.

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I was very fortunate. My daughter has had ear problems since she was 3 months old (shes almost 17). Thankfully, she was easy to dose.
We are supposed to keep her ears dry so one time after swimming, we tried the drops that dry up the water in the ear canal. She fell to the floor screaming in such agony I can still hear it & cringe. Its made with alcohol & we then discovered she had a perforated ear drum.
Hopefully your son will get more used to it as he gets older.
41 weeks ago
41 weeks ago Link To Comment
Well said, sir! Good reminder.
41 weeks ago
41 weeks ago Link To Comment
If there is a next time, it's much easier to give your son the ear drops while he is asleep.

42 weeks ago
42 weeks ago Link To Comment
Yeah, you'd think so, wouldn't you. Tried it. Didn't pan out.
41 weeks ago
41 weeks ago Link To Comment
It might depend on how deeply they sleep and in what position. I can't even go into my son's room when he's asleep because the odds are that I'll wake him up.
41 weeks ago
41 weeks ago Link To Comment
I could have told her that! :D When an ear is that inflamed, just putting the drops produces a wildly awake, screaming child.

Assuming they happen to be in a convenient position to administer the drops, of course.
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