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Why Marry if You Are a Call Girl?

January 15th, 2014 - 5:49 am

I just finished reading Tracy Quan’s book Diary of a Married Call Girl: A Nancy Chan Novel. The description is as follows:

In this irreverent take on infidelity and modern marriage, newlywed topflight prostitute Nancy Chan finds herself struggling to adjust to the realities of domestic bliss. She’s honing her respectable image as the wife of investment banker Matt, cooking fashionable meals and taking his shirts to the cleaners. But now that she and Matt share a home, it’s getting harder to keep her career as an exclusive call girl a secret. Nancy fears what might happen if Matt finds out, but she can’t quite bring herself to give up her financial independence. And now Matt wants to start a family. Motherhood could jeopardize her business—and what will it do to her body?

Okay, I know this is just fiction but as I read the book, I couldn’t help but wonder why this woman was married if she was pursuing life as a call girl? Obviously, from her point of view, it is nice to have someone to care for you and at the same time continue with her current job. The risk factor is also probably a turn-on. However, you have to wonder what kind of cruel joke she is playing on her banker husband who is pretty naive and seems to think she is studying French all day while she is turning tricks instead. It would be one thing if she was up front about her work and told her husband what she did before they married to give him a choice about what to do but to trick him to me seemed sickening, making the storyline difficult for me to deal with.

If this were a man doing the same sleazy thing, no one would be that intrigued by it, in fact, many readers would probably think that “going Betty Broderick” on him would be okay. But when a woman deceives a man, somehow it makes for a mysterious story showing the complexity of women’s sexuality.

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"Nancy fears what might happen if Matt finds out, but she can’t quite bring herself to give up her financial independence."

Great. Her desire for her own money is greater than the health of someone she claims to love. I think he'll find out something is up when he feels that burning sensation (or gets some bad news on a blood test result).
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Yep, what Helen said: It's the double standard that's disgusting.

If a man were to do that, he'd be a jerk, no matter what the rationalization was, and not any surprise in the story if he ends up dead at her hands.

But, if *she* does it, her peril is intriguing and titillating, she's empowered, but living in fear of sexually repressive moralists, etc. Blah blah blah, victim of teh patriarchy, blah blah blah.

Yet another trashy entitlement princess novel. Sort of a "Girls" meets "Sex in the City" after shacking up with "Mr Big". All that's missing is the Apple-tini or Cosmo and shoes.

FWIW, and I was shocked to find out, there's a market for preggers. Go figure. It's a niche, sure, but a lucrative one.
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You're missing the point here, Dr. Helen. Why would a call girl want to get married? For the guaranteed child support. Doesn't matter who the biological father is, she has a husband who will pay for it all.

But the larger point is what this says about women. She has nothing to offer a man but sex. This is how she makes her living. It doesn't matter whether she's married or not, although being married is to her great advantage.

The greater fools here are the men who participate in this grand charade, thinking with their little heads as it were.

Marriage is a joke, because women are a joke. They have allowed themselves to become one. But the law hasn't changed, and men are still held accountable. And financiably responsible by the way.

When women hold themselves accountable, maybe things will change. But the same could be said of men.

Of course she wants to get married. Look at all the benefits she gets. Only a complete fool would get married today, given the attitude and behavior of the modern American girl.

Look at her. She's out there running around, jumping in and out of bed with every guy who lights her fire, having sex on the side for money.

Who would marry a woman like that? An idiot, perhaps, or someone who is prone to bankruptcy. Or an idiot who willingly agrees to pay for another man's child.

The point is that the sexually active woman is all the rage right now. She's liberated! She's free! She can have sex with whomever she wants, often for money. Call her a prostitute, but then think what is marriage but money and property in exchange for sex.

Does anyone else see how screwed up this culture is? It's all about celebrating female sexuality and depriving males of their rights, their income and their property. Only a complete fool would go along with that.
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I think the presumption is that women are in a permanent state of adolescence when it's time for the consequences of their behavior and 'choices'.

There's the expectation that she'll "grow" out of this, and when she's finally discovered, her husband will love her so much that he'll forgive her for it, but in no way would he be allowed (as a full adult and male), to get away with something like this without bearing serious consequences. Daddy will still be there to take care of the little girl when she comes home.

She has a 'job', but she's allowed to drop it on a whim. It's a hobby. Their family doesn't depend on it, and she's 'playing house' for her personal satisfaction and for the pleasant feedback from her husband, but really, their household doesn't depend on her contributions, either financially or domestically. The only thing of significance she's bringing to the marital estate is her reproduction and affection, and she leases that out to others by the hour.

She's a person-of-negotiable-affection, and she's deliberately, and deceptively, oversubscribed the one asset she brings to the relationship.
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In all the arts, including writing, there's a common way of thinking that can be described as, "I'm no good at this, so if I'm going to be successful, I'll have to be controversial and shocking."

That's why jseligner's comment that Quan's writing isn't that good may apply here.

--Michael W. Perry, author of My Nights with Leukemia: Caring for Children with Cancer
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"Nancy fears what might happen if Matt finds out, but she can’t quite bring herself to give up her financial independence."

Great. Her desire for her own money is greater than the health of someone she claims to love. I think he'll find out something is up when he feels that burning sensation (or gets some bad news on a blood test result).
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I couldn’t help but wonder why this woman was married if she was pursuing life as a call girl?

The bigger problem with Diary of a Married Call Girl is the writing: it's not very good. For a better take, see Belle de Jour's books, starting with Diary of an Unlikely Call Girl.

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