Some Advice for Complainers
February 12th, 2013 - 1:04 pm
Are you a chronic complainer? I am and I have to catch myself to get myself to stop. Sure, complaining often produces a high, but who needs the aggravation and rumination that comes with it. Here is some good advice from the Albert Ellis Institute for how to deal with complaining.
Complaining has its place but not everything is worth complaining about. If you receive poor service at a business, a complaint may make them improve their service. But if you find yourself complaining about every tiny little thing that isn’t up to your standards of perfection (e.g. Sheldon on “The Big Bang Theory”), you’ll be a bore to everyone around you. Seriously, who cares how the toilet paper is hung on the dispensor so long as there is some paper when you need it? Get some perspective – the whole world doesn’t exist to satisfy any individual.
Louis CK offers some good perspective.
http://www.thatvideosite.com/v/94
When I get suckered into complaining I think I lose touch with reality. Not in a delusional sense, it is just that I get overfocused on how I WANT things to be rather than how things actually are. So when I notice what I am doing, I try to shift back to realityville and deal with the world the way it is.
I am more effective when I deal with the world as it is rather than the world I wish for.
Trey