Dear Husbands of Stay-At-Home Moms: There's Something Your Wife Wants This Christmas...

Dear husbands of stay-at-home moms:

Listen very carefully, okay? I know you’re busy and there’s a lot on your plate. And you think you’ve already done your Christmas shopping and you’re really proud of yourself for getting it done early. And you think your wife is going to love the necklace from Tiffany’s you picked out and you can’t wait to see it on her. But I want you to read this. Or skim it. Or whatever. Just, listen.

Your wife will love the necklace from Tiffany’s (or whatever it was that you got her). She’ll smile and tell you that you shouldn’t have spent so much money even though she’s really touched that you did. And she’ll love all the other things you got her too. She really will. But there’s something she wants for Christmas this year that she didn’t ask for. And that’s what I want to tell you about.

She wants time. Time to herself. No, no wait, not a date night. I mean, she’d probably love that too. She loves spending time with you and that would be a really great gift. But I’m sure you thought of that already. No. Time to herself. Without you. Without the kids. Without her friends. Alone.

She didn’t ask you for this because it’s something that’s really hard to ask for. It means admitting that, sometimes, she doesn’t want to be around her kids. And she loves her kids. She’d die for her kids. How is it possible she wants time away from them? But she does. She’s human and she does.

And it means admitting that, sometimes, she doesn’t want to be around you. Which is really hard to admit because you guys don’t see each other much as it is. And she loves you so very much. And she wishes you had more time together. But she also wants time to herself.

She wants time in which no one is touching her. Time in which no one is talking to her. Time in which she isn’t planning four steps ahead or reorganizing the day because something crazy happened. Time to wear the outfit she picked out that morning without worrying someone will spill something on it, or sneeze on it, or draw on it.