5 Life and Relationship Lessons from Finding Mr. Righteous


Lesson #5: Everybody's human. Very, very human.

I once heard a guy tell a story about a disastrous first date he went on. He was ultra-liberal, and didn't realize the girl he'd asked out was a libertarian. They discovered their differences soon enough, and their debate was so fierce she left in tears. It didn't end there, though; he followed up with links to articles and documentaries she had to see, to correct her point of view. She participated as well, sending him material from her own side. But it was clear there was no romantic possibility between the two of them -- instead of finding love on a blind date, they found hate.

He asked, "What do you do? When you meet up with these DC vampires who are just dead set on destroying the world?"

I told him the first thing you do is stop denying their essential humanity by calling them monsters. Then, give them the benefit of the doubt by assuming they hold their views because they want to make the world a better place, too -- or, at the very least, not because of some desire to burn it all down. I wish now I could have just given him a copy of Finding Mr. Righteous, the romantic memoir by conservative activist Lisa de Pasquale.