Are Kirk Cameron's Ideas About Marriage Outdated?

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Kirk Cameron is making headlines for his convictions on marriage. In an interview with the Christian Post, Cameron said:

Wives are to honor and respect and follow their husband's lead, not to tell their husband how he ought to be a better husband… when each person gets their part right, regardless of how their spouse is treating them, there is hope for real change in their marriage.

While pop culture and feminists rage against the biblical concept of submission, God designed marriages to work with specific roles in mind. The optimal way for marriages to thrive is by applying submission and love the way God intended. Living this out will have a profound impact on your marriage.

Here are three benefits of practicing biblical submission:

1. You Model Christ's Love for the Church

This one is not surprising, because God told us it would happen in Ephesians 5:22-33:   

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 

In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

When wives respect their husbands and husbands love their wives, we show the world how greatly Christ loves us. Submission is not oppression, but an expression of love to God and our spouse. When our homes follow God’s pattern for family life, we demonstrate God’s love to all around us. It is an amazing way to share the Gospel every day.