What Should You Do When You Feel Stuck in Life?
What happens when you encounter a problem with no solution? It happens all the time, right? Even more than we recognize, more than we know. It’s not that there’s nothing you can do, but you have no good choices. There may be options, various roads to go down, but none of them are good. They only make the problem worse. Sometimes there’s nothing we can do but wait.
Maybe you have a health crisis. It’s not terminal, you’re not going to die from it, but it’s not going to go away and you have to deal with it. Or maybe you’re stuck in your career. You’ve been trying to climb the ladder, but the ladder you’re climbing is cut off. You thought you could advance here, but you find yourself pushing against a glass ceiling. The only options are to go back to school and start a new career, or simply deal with it. And it feels like none of the options are good.
Maybe you’re in a financial mess and you don’t know how to fix it. You feel like every step you take is like an inch up Mount Everest. It’s like throwing pennies in a fountain, and it’s not going to get better for a long, long time. Or maybe you’re in a marriage that is an unhappy mess. You don’t want to get a divorce and neither does your spouse, and you’ve decided ‘this just is what it is.’ You thought it was going to turn out better than this, and now you just feel stuck. Regardless of where you are with your family, friends, career, finances, marriage, kids, health – you have found yourself at a crossroads.
Faith is won or lost at this crossroads. Faith is either improved, deepened and made incredibly profound, or it’s lost all together. When we find ourselves in the waiting room, we find ourselves thinking these things:
We believe God is absent or, at best, silent. He isn’t present. He’s not here with me. He’s not part of my life. When we’re waiting for something to change, we think he isn’t paying attention. Or at worst, we are way down the list of priorities and he’ll never get to us. We present our requests to God, and we think he’s saying, “Are you kidding me?? Have you seen what is happening in the Middle East? Have you noticed the situation happening with the current election? You see what I’m dealing with, and you bring me this?? I’ll get to you when I get to you.”
We believe God is angry and we’re being punished for something. We try to appease God. We own up to things we’ve never talked to God about. We start to bargain with him, and we say things like, “If you will, I will,” and “If you will only, then I will never…”