Dr. Helen

Study: Nagging Kills!

I saw this headline at Drudge and immediately went over to check out the article at CBS New York titled “Study: Nagging By A Spouse Could Shorten Your Life”:

NEW YORK (CBSNewYork) — It is a part of marriage that everyone loathes – the occasional or, in some cases, constant nagging between spouses.

And as CBS 2’s Scott Rapoport reported Friday, word has now come that nagging is not only annoying, but can even be life-threatening.

Ask any married guy on the planet and he’ll tell you, as one man told CBS 2, nagging is “not pleasant.”

But now a new study suggests husbands of nagging wives can actually be nagged to death.

Danish researchers from the University of Copenhagen said having a nagging partner can significantly shorten one’s life, and could result in three extra deaths per 100 people per year.

The study also said people nagged by their spouses are more likely to get heart disease and cancer.

“Sounds about right,” said Stephanie Cellitti. “I nag him a lot.”

The study also says men in particular are at risk.

I truly believe this, having counseled and talked to many men over the years who have been nagged and harassed by their spouse, some to the point of severe depression and heart disease. I can always tell if a man’s relationship is going poorly by how many times a wife or girlfriend calls him on the phone to tell him to do something or ask where he is. Naturally, if a man does this to a woman, it is abuse. Society doesn’t care if a woman nags and hassles a guy 24/7. Even the unempathetic women in the article mentioned that they weren’t going to stop. So, it’s up to men to protect themselves, at least until changes can be made, if ever.

My advice for those men not already married wondering if she would make a good wife? If she calls or texts multiple times a day to ask you to do something or asks what you are doing, she is probably going to continue this negative behavior. Take this as a sign that something many be wrong with the relationship and do not get too involved. It is not worth your health and certainly not your life.

What are other forms of nagging that you have witnessed that you feel are negative influences on men’s health?