— Jason (@Vision365) February 14, 2015
Last week social media jumped on the story of a woman who supposedly decided to have a late-term abortion specifically because she found out she was having a boy. Based on a near-anonymous comment posted on an Internet forum, the story is highly questionable at best. Nevertheless, both pro- and anti-abortion advocates pounced on the missive. The dialogue generated took on a life of its own, inspiring the following comment from feminist site Jezebel:
“The virality of this story is sort of a nice reminder about confirmation bias: when something fits our preferred narrative just a little too snugly, it’s probably time for skepticism,” wrote Jezebel’s Anna Merlan.
How, exactly, does gendercide “fit our narrative” in the West, especially in relation to boys?
No boy is born hating women. My first job was working as an assistant at a local day care after school. Often I’d be placed in the toddler room where 18-month-olds Justin and Vincent would fight for my attention and my hugs. Jackie, their female counterpart, enjoyed playing but lacked the boys’ overwhelming desire for physical affection. That girl, like most her age, was a talker who enjoyed her burgeoning independence. True to their own biological nature the boys talked a bit less, but hugged twice as much. The simple reality of gender (one that we often tend to ignore) is that what boys don’t express verbally they express physically, emotions being at the top of the list.
Women can have a three hour in-depth conversation about an issue that would inspire a man to sit, listen, absorb and respond with a hug and a “I’m sorry.” Depending on the situation it can be enough to drive a woman nuts. We dig words. Quite often, a man’s words are in his deeds. It’s a biological communication gap that contemporary feminism, with its disregard for biological gender cues, tends to ignore far too often at the peril of both boys and girls.
The acceptance of ignorant feminist ideology has led to dangerous ramifications for boys within our culture:
“We are pathologizing boyhood,” says Ned Hallo-well, a psychiatrist who has been diagnosed with ADHD himself and has cowritten two books about it, Driven to Distraction and Delivered from Distraction.“God bless the women’s movement—we needed it—but what’s happened is, particularly in schools where most of the teachers are women, there’s been a general girlification of elementary school, where any kind of disruptive behavior is sinful. What I call the ‘moral diagnosis’ gets made: You’re bad. Now go get a doctor and get on medication so you’ll be good. And that’s a real perversion of what ought to happen. Most boys are naturally more restless than most girls, and I would say that’s good. But schools want these little goody-goodies who sit still and do what they’re told—these robots—and that’s just not who boys are.”
For the record, boys aren’t the only targets for medicated behavior in the classroom. Recently a colleague of mine confided that her 15-year-old daughter was struggling in science class. “The teacher faced a room full of kids who failed the exam and told them they were there because they were too stupid to understand biology,” she commented. When she confronted the teacher’s supervisor and principal, my colleague was told to take her daughter to the doctor. “Get her some Xanax” was their solution to her daughter’s age- and gender-appropriate emotional response.
— Ryan Southerland (@ryansouth21) February 15, 2015
Should it come as any surprise that the idea of medicating away behavioral problems would be associated with a feminist movement that has made birth control and abortion their primary concern? Medicine is the solution to eliminating those pesky biological and psychological problems an ineffectual ideology fails to confront, because it’s tied up in politically-motivated negative messaging:
I had no idea how to raise a boy into a man who wasn’t an asshole.
And social engineering:
She also warns against over-emphasizing physical play with our sons. Parents tend to let their sons play roughly because “boys will be boys.” While it’s fine to let boys roughhouse, it’s important to help them learn empathy by talking to them about the feelings of the children they’re playing with and helping them understand how their actions affect others.
There is a ton of parenting advice out there that encourages parents to talk with their children about their emotions in order to get them to verbalize, synthesize and reach intellectual conclusions. When it comes to discussing physical expressions of emotion, the feminist response is to teach their children to keep their bodies to themselves. What message does that send to a little boy whose primary mode of emotional expression is a hug?
It only gets worse as they get older. By the time they’re old enough to enter into a sexual relationship, indoctrinated and medicated men are now being handed illogical contracts that legally obligate them to restrain their emotions in pursuit of physical pleasure. Instead of understanding a man’s sexuality in terms of emotional communication, a man’s sex drive has been reduced to a potential threat that must be contained, controlled, or destroyed in the name of women’s liberation. Is it any wonder that the men who do become fathers are often stereotyped as being emotionally distant if not physically absent from their own children?
One survey I came across indicated that 9-year-old boys wished they could grow up to be mothers, because mothers showed more affection than their paternal counterparts. The researcher wrote:
I said “…but you could be a Father? That’s what you could do…be a dad!”
He looked at me with a confused face as if I just spoke in another language.
My mind raced as I wondered just how many of these fifty boys had physically-present but not emotionally-present fathers or role-models, or had fathers who were present at all. If they did hang out, they did little more than throw the ball around.
We need more Maps to Manhood.
The “Map” he’s looking for isn’t hard to find, because it’s always been there. It’s just been obscured by politicized lingo and ideology stemming from a movement that seeks to socially engineer out of existence what it just can’t seem to understand or accept: Boys are different from girls, and that’s okay.