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"Ugh. Stop trying to justify the sexist notion that it's better for women to marry up. "

Jessica Wakeman over at the span style=”font-style:italic;”Frisky /spana href=”http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-cash-coupling-why-marrying-for-money-isnt-a-totally-bad-idea/”has a column about men marrying for money/a (via Instapundit and a href=”http://voxday.blogspot.com/2010/06/hypergamy-trumps-ideology.html”Vox Day/a). She writes it in response to a span style=”font-style:italic;”Newsweek/span article about the book, a href=”http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0762435178?ie=UTF8tag=wwwviolentkicomlinkCode=as2camp=1789creative=9325creativeASIN=0762435178″span style=”font-style:italic;”Smart Girls Marry Money: How Women Have Been Duped Into the Romantic Dream–And How They’re Paying For It:/span/aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=0762435178″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”” style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” /br /br /blockquoteForget for a moment that they annoyingly refer to grown women as “girls” in their title and check out their thesis: because, for a variety of reasons, men earn more money than women, it’s a wise move to marry someone who can provide for you and your family….br /br /Take me, for instance. I’m afraid I’m going to get tarred and feathered as a “bad feminist” for admitting this, but yeah, I do want to marry someone who can financially support both me and our kids.br /br /I’m not ashamed to want to “marry for money,” if that’s what would you can even call it, because I don’t fundamentally believe it is the “man’s role” to provide for women. My actual motivations, as I see them, are pure enough. I know of great guys out there—journalists, teachers, non-profit dudes—who will probably make great dads. But I personally wouldn’t pair up with them because, realistically, our two salaries together just wouldn’t be enough to cut it for what I want out of life. But, but, but, “Bank accounts shouldn’t matter at all!” And while I agree with that in theory, sorry, a man who can provide for me and our children is just much more attractive to me. br /br /Maybe this isn’t “feminist,” but logically, I need to marry a guy who makes more money than I do—preferably a lot more money than I do—for us to be able to afford what I want and I hope he will want, too. /blockquotebr / br /I have to admire some of the comments made by womena href=”http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-cash-coupling-why-marrying-for-money-isnt-a-totally-bad-idea/” such as this one:/abr /br /blockquoteUgh. Stop trying to justify the sexist notion that it’s better for women to marry up. Feminism gave us the opportunity to make our own money so we could control our own destinies and marry the people we love instead of being indentured servants to men we depend on for survival. If you want to put yourself in that prison, have at it, but don’t act like it’s a great idea for women in general.br /br /What happens if your husband loses all his money in a lawsuit or market crash or gets injured and can no longer work? Gonna dump him for the next meal ticket? Being able to take care of yourself and family is feminist. Putting yourself in a position where you couldn’t do it is what hurts women and children./blockquotebr /br /At least the above commenter isn’t a hypocrite. I can’t say the same for Ms. Wakeman who appears to want to be a “feminist” with a meal ticket. I’ve noticed that the more a woman talks about feminism, the more likely she is to screw a guy out of his money. Why is that?

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