A reader a href=”http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1162248/Kate-Spicer-getting-pregnant-night-stand-happy-mistake.html”emails this article /afrom the emDaily Mail /emabout a book, a href=”http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0061256927?ie=UTF8tag=wwwviolentkicomlinkCode=as2camp=1789creative=9325creativeASIN=0061256927″Accidentally on Purpose: A One-Night Stand, My Unplanned Parenthood, and Loving the Best Mistake I Ever Made./aimg src=”http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=wwwviolentkicoml=as2o=1a=0061256927″ width=”1″ height=”1″ border=”0″ alt=”” style=”border:none !important; margin:0px !important;” / br /br /blockquoteThe author – single, 39-year-old Mary Pols – got pregnant as a result of unprotected sex on an ill-advised one-night stand, and the book is all about her emotional journey to single mumdom, not to mention her heroic attempts to forge some sort of relationship with the stranger who fathered her child. br /br /In the book, she asks herself whether she conceived ‘accidentally on purpose’. The sex in question, she insists, was purely for pleasure. But was there a secret agenda at work?br /br /She was, after all, like the rest of us maturing singletons, in the last-chance saloon as far as her fertility was concerned. True love, marriage and all that was passing her by…br /br /Some of these women approach the task in a far more ruthless manner than Mary Pols did, purposefully going out and sleeping with men when they know they are at their most fertile. br /br /In America, they even have a name for this – they call them ‘gotcha’ pregnancies. Many of the women involved deliberately avoid birth control and have no intention of letting their unwitting bedfellow know this. …/blockquotebr /br /I love the way the author of the article blames men for women’s manipulation and irresponsibility:br /br /blockquoteBut, seriously, if a man takes a risk like that, he has to face the consequences. The woman, meanwhile, needs to make sure she has unprotected sex with the right kind of man. /blockquotebr /br /Sorry, but if a woman plans a “Gotcha pregnancy”–shouldn’t she get hit with the “Gotcha child support?” She took the responsiblity to do this, now she should pay for it. And don’t give me the baloney about men being involved in the sex and therefore responsible. Men have few or no reproductive rights and were lied to about the birth control. Even if he used a condom and “took responsibility for birth control,” a manipulative woman could get the condom out of the trash. I would hope that the man would feel that his child deserved to know him and to be treated well, but that should be his choice, not the state’s decision.