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Dating Toxins?

Following up on the nice guy post from yesterday, Dan Collins at a href=”http://www.proteinwisdom.com/”Protein Wisdom /a emailed a column entitled: a href=”http://blogs.theage.com.au/lifestyle/asksam/archives/2007/12/ask_sam_friday_27.html””Ask Sam Friday: Meeting Mrs. Right.”/a When men were asked why they didn’t date, this is what was said:br /br /blockquote”Too many princesses,” was one explanation I overheard during a blokes beer session the other night at the pub. “They’re all either gold diggers or married,” proffered up another. “I’m just way too shy,” piped a third. And perhaps he might be right. br /br /Recent scientific research has discovered that the fruitless search for love has less to do with the supposed Sheila Shortage (a term created by KPMG demographer Bernard Salt) and more to do with our own foibles and short-comings. br /br /According to the research of psychiatrist Dr Victoria Lukats, who polled 5000 daters for UK dating website PARSHIP and found that those who haven’t been on a date in the last six months or had a relationship in more than a year, it’s down to a simple theory: a build-up of Dating Toxins …/blockquotebr /br /Wow, dating toxins, sounded interesting so I clicked through a href=”http://www.parship.co.uk/docs/public/coaching/date.xhtml”to the website /amentioned to find out more:br /br /blockquoteDating toxins are the top 5 reasons that people give as to why they’re single when what they’re actually looking for is a serious long-term relationship. These include lack of self esteem, shyness, lack of opportunity, fussiness and desperation./blockquote br /br /Sounds plausible but the UK study seems to have overlooked an important aspect of what is going on in many western countries. Ambivalence –men are being told a href=”http://www.timesonline.co.uk/article/0,,200-2196058,00.html”not to get married /a because of the bias in the courts there and are, with good reason, reluctant to get married. Somehow, I think this ambivalence plays as much a part in why men are not dating as “dating toxins.”