Since we were talking about The New Individualist, I should probably also mention my Cary Grant/Personal Style article is also up and ready for your reading pleasure.
I’ll posit the validity of everyone wants to be the character Cary Grant played in his movies.
However, given what has become known about Mr. Grant’s personal life, I’ll take a pass.
Great article. I was struck with the same theme reading a bio of the Beatles. Their voice and sound came from trying to immitate records. When they played Little Richard, they tried to play it like Little richard, same for Elvis, Isley Bro., etc. Mixing this together night after night in Hamburg, Paul said something like “after all that we sounded like us.”
Reading your article brought back memories. Many, many years ago, I too tried to determine just what was meant by being cool. Perhaps being a bit too analytical, I nonetheless took stock of the people I knew who I thought were cool.
Although they had varied life styles, one aspect of their lives seemed consistent. They were all there own persons. While some followed the current style closely, others were out and out rebels against any known style, and others had no apparent style at all, and yet, all lived by what appeared to me as their own personal standards.
That is when I realized that the essence to being cool was to be yourself. You can act cool but you cannot be cool unless it is within you to do so. If you have no musical talent, no amount of studying and practicing is going to make you a musician. Same with sports. And it is the same with being cool.
You are either born with it or you are not. Most people