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Why Women (and Men) Need Biblical Feminism

Real freedom is spelled G-O-D.

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Susan L.M. Goldberg

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April 22, 2014 - 10:00 am
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"He hit me so hard I actually saw stars." - Lisa De Pasquale, in an excerpt from page 23 of Finding Mr. Righteous on her alcoholic, atheist boyfriend Chris...

David, in your last response in our ongoing dialogue about Lisa De Pasquale’s new book Finding Mr. Righteous, you cited another disturbing passage from the book (shown above) and paired it with some of your own relationship experiences:

Some of the women I dated would shift the foreplay into one disturbing realm or another, either incorporating pain and degradation into how they treated me or requesting I act that way toward them. Never was it just “for fun” or “to be kinky” or to “spice things up”– always behind these outward expressions some inner emotional wounds ached, unhealed by a spiritual practice.

Or rather, as it turns out, the sex and the pain was their substitute for a religion. …The main takeaway that I’ve gotten from Paglia, supplemented by additional reading from books like A History of Sexual Customs and James C. Bennett and Michael Lotus’s America 3.0, is that throughout human history the Judeo-Christian conception of monogamous marriage is actually the “deviant,” unnatural way to live. History shows that the more “normal” way for both men and women to treat each other is the same way animals do in the wild — as disposable meat. Humans’ default setting is not to love just one person forever. When we do we are rising above our nature; do I go too far that Love itself is not natural?

David, I must congratulate you on your epiphany. You have discovered a truth that many in the mainstream Bible-believing sphere have tried to avoid for years: Those who put their faith in the Bible are the cultural deviants. How hilarious is it that a self-proclaimed atheist can state this so clearly? Then again, one of the reasons Paglia has been blacklisted by liberals is that she is so willing to discuss the difference between pagan and Godly behaviors. Liberals, especially the Marxists in the bunch, long ago learned that it’s much easier to behave badly when you do it under the guise of being Godly. In this case, Paglia’s too honest for her own good.

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"Biblical feminism" is an oxymoron. Christian men do not refrain from beating up or otherwise mistreating women because of feminism; they treat women well because Christ commands us to treat one another as we desire to be treated ourselves. Tacking "feminism" onto "Bible" or "Christian" or "Jewish" is at best an attempt to be acceptable to the world, which will never accept you anyway if you truly follow the Bible; at worst it is a perversion of scripture.
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He slapped me so hard I saw stars... later that night
Seriously? We are supposed to believe this garbage? A woman let herself get hit like that and just went about her business, didn't cry, didn't call the police, didn't kill her abuser, didn't even hit him, no fight, no argument, she didn't call her mom, her dad, or even her "bestie", just... "...later that night..." I'm calling BS. This is the worst kind of utter fiction. Seriously people, read a serious book, the world is at stake after all, it's not too much to ask. I'd recommend a real Christian book, like, I don't know, the Bible? Not a bad place to start.
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I'd share this but even the Christian women I know would squirm at the notion that Christianity puts them into any kind of restrictive framework. It is a nearly universal code of womanhood today that THEY decide what's right for them. Not even the Bible suffices for a boundary, nowadays.
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A few vodka shots, a little 50 Shades of Gray and a little regret means a ruined life for some young man, who may not be at all virtuous but is no less virtueless than the female who decided that what she wanted at a particular moment was not what she wanted subsequently. Both sexes are highly sexualized by nature. The Bible is not without examples of both. Modern feminism - or as the critics of Kirsten Durst deem themselves, feminist theorists- wants a pure victimless womanhood in which any female's choices however transitory or deleterious must be subsequently validated and those poor men who were stupid enough to fall for that transitory validation can be punished or ruined. This is not a defense of predatory males, but a call for a recognition that sexuality is present in both and, absent moral constraints, dangerous to both.
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The 'kinky' sex that you're referring to isn't blatant abuse of a partner. It's a willing and consensual exchange of power, with the person who's surrendering control having set the limits and the duration, and having the power to cease, without admonishment or repercussion, the activity in question. A quick study of "S&M 101" or "Screw the Roses" would explain that better than I can.

(No, I'm not into S&M. Tho I do see how it applies to game, 50 shades of grey, 9 &1/2 weeks, Anne Rice novels, Twilight, etc.)

Certainly, there are sadists and sociopaths in our world that delight in causing as much misery as possible, and masochists that seek out degradation, but that's not the content of a successful relationship. It is, sadly, prevalent in today's revenge politics, notably 2nd wave feminism and its dreadful fallout on our legal system and culture.

That level of trust is similar to the back and forth power exchange necessary for two individuals to merge into one family unit. The level of trust, and love necessary to make that work has to be earned and sometimes, initially extended on faith. Breaking that trust can be irredeemable. Couples that cannot find ways to do this without mutual agreement or forcing one to be subsumed by the other party are typically not going to work out.

It's exacerbated when one party has the state eager to intervene on their behalf and destroy the other party. That can really lead to physical and mental abuse, severely controlling behavior, and fosters contempt for their partner due to their lack of legal remedy, and growing resentment from the (legally, not physically) weaker person.

I stopped going to church when it became overrun with "biblical feminism". I didn't need another day ruined for the purpose of hearing how much "men suck, and you owe your spouse for putting up with your disgusting being". I got that one-sided demand on the other 6 days of the week, while busting my ass to support a stay at home alcoholic, that the 'church' rationalized and minimized, or coping with the assaults and crazy-making behavior that I was expected to tolerate and somehow 'lead' her away from.

I'm sorry, combining "biblical" and "feminism" just seems like doubling down on the indulgence, rationalization and minimization of awful female behavior, and blatant misandry of the last 40 years, by adding another layer of unquestionable and unchangeable 'authority' to the mix.
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I sincerely hope that you can escape your misery & soon. If having stage 3c ovarian cancer taught me anything, (thankfully in remission now), it's that life is too short to suffer. Escape your situation before it destroys your health & Godspeed!!
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Monogamy is the right stuff.

I am not particularly evangelistic but I realize that it's not all about us; it's about spending your life figuring out how to be close to God. This is a tall order to say the very least. Jesus was sent here to show us all how; living life according to his teachings is no easy task though.
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The gentiles who followed the Jewish teacher were Greeks and Romans, mostly. Their cultures certainly embraced romantic love, faithful marriages, and love of family, of nation, of spirituality. Greek and Roman culture seem to have combined with Jewish culture to produce what we call Western Civilization.
I have known atheists and agnostics who embraced the same moral codes as Christians do. I will not assume that one who does not embrace a God is necessarily empty or cruel.
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While not all atheists act outwardly immoral they openly declare themselves to be God in that they believe they are the final arbiter of morality. They believe that no code is higher than their own opinion. That is by itself immoral because it's moral relativism that has led to the downfall of our society. We know the fruit is corrupt, so we know the root is corrupt. It's what the Bible is talking about when it says they have the appearance of godliness, but deny the power thereof. The Bible says it's that is an attribute of Satan who is transformed into an angel of light and so his ministers appear as ministers of righteousness. It's the Bible that set the moral codes "moral" atheists outwardly conform to while those "moral" atheists denounce the very book that taught them the morality they pretend to conform to while they still campaign to strip the Bible from our classrooms and courthouses. All "moral" atheists grew up in a culture affected by the Bible and so they can not claim to be unaffected by it. They were not raised in vacuum of a non-existent Bible-less society and so they have a moral standard to which they know they need to appear to adhere to for others to consider them moral. They are therefore constrained by the revealed word of God and we know that because all societies that abandon the word of God become immoral. Philo had naked boys serve him at his wine parties. So much for "Philosophy." The greeks and romans were wicked, so much so that the Bible says we are not to follow the examples of the gentiles in regards to sexuality. It's the Jewish law we are to follow in the bedroom, not the examples of the Greek or Romans.
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MT Geoff, INDEED!! I count as friends, several people who claim to be atheists but are far more moral than some (but NOT the majority of) people who believe in God.
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"Biblical feminism" is an oxymoron. Christian men do not refrain from beating up or otherwise mistreating women because of feminism; they treat women well because Christ commands us to treat one another as we desire to be treated ourselves. Tacking "feminism" onto "Bible" or "Christian" or "Jewish" is at best an attempt to be acceptable to the world, which will never accept you anyway if you truly follow the Bible; at worst it is a perversion of scripture.
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