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Is It Still ‘Objectifying’ When the Sex Object is Male?

The New York Post reports on men eager to pose for "dudeoir" pec-torials for their girlfriends.

Sarah Hoyt


August 22, 2013 - 7:00 am


Some days I wake up and I think I fell headlong into one of the dreams — or was that nightmares? — of my teachers back in the good bad seventies. They claimed that women were so super-competent, so special that all they had to do was compete “on an equal footing” with men to supersede them and relegate men to the roles that had been historically feminine.

Of course, the last forty years have shown that equality needs a continuous and pushy boost from government, to make sure that some animals are more equal than others.

However, it appears to be true that if you keep men from having superiority — or even equality — in their traditional fields of endeavor, they turn to feminine tricks to attract mates.

The fact that both men and women report being unhappier — and children are often cast adrift — in this brave new world of reverse discrimination is just one of those things, I guess.

The New York Post (who doesn’t want me to sleep at night) informs us that Guys just wanna have fun — by stripping down and posing for sexy “dudeoir” pec-torials.

It’s a recent Sunday afternoon in Midtown, and Lionel Zanar is standing in nothing but a snug pair of boxer-briefs, while his girlfriend, Meiko, looks on.

The super-fit contractor and self-defense trainer from Brooklyn is sitting for a saucy photo shoot — known in the photography business as “dudeoir,” a tongue-in-cheek play on the “boudoir” trend, in which women pose for pictures in their lingerie.

“I love the photos,” laughs Zanar, 33, who in one particularly racy shot stands stark naked while Meiko crouches behind, covering his manhood with her hands. “Meiko will be getting a really big version of it, framed.”

The gesture is perhaps the least Zanar can do for his sweetheart, who paid about $500 for the sultry 90-minute shoot. The divorced dad does, however, point out that she “pretty much bought the session as a gift to herself.”

I believe that when men pay for the equivalent for a girlfriend, feminists scream “objectification.” Does it still hold when the shoe is on the other pretty-pretty foot?


Photo courtesy Shutterstock © Vladimir Wrangel

Sarah Hoyt lives in Colorado with her husband, two sons and too many cats. She has published Darkship Thieves and 16 other novels, and over 100 short stories. Writing non-fiction is a new, daunting endeavor. For more on Sarah and samples of her writing, look around at Sarah A. or check out her writing and life blog at According to

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We were just talking about "Glamour Shots" at the office this week, the 80s vanity studios with wind machines, black bustiers for every size and our friends who had pictures taken often, passed them out like school photos, etc. In the age of endless selfies and facebook, glamour shots for guys does not sound so awful.
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Heck, I wouldn't mind doing that, but someone may walk along and sit their coffee on top of my gut. That would inconvenience me.
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I've always encouraged, even begged, the ladies to objectify me. I still haven't given up hope that it may happen someday.
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I don't think it's women who are objectifying these guys.
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Nope. It falls under the same umbrella as a non-white person calling a white person "Cracka". Remember, the rules always go against the white man...
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