Bad Advice: Stop Trying To Be Friends with People
This week's Bad Advice tackles charity friendships.
July 10, 2013 - 7:00 am
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Dear Bad Advice,
I have a coworker that I can tell is not doing well. Her work performance is fine, and I never have anything to complain about there. But I can tell she must be going through a rough patch in her life. She looks haggard and doesn’t seem to put as much care into her hair and dress as she used to. She doesn’t look happy and she’s gone frequently (for scheduled absences). I heard a rumor she might be seriously ill with something chronic. She’s single and lives alone, far away from the rest of her family. I get sad thinking she doesn’t have anyone to take care of her. But I don’t know how to approach her to offer help. I want her to know I’m here to listen, too, but I don’t know how to tell her that. We’ve worked together for years and never been close. What should I do?
- Concerned in the Cubicle
This is going to sound like bad advice, but don’t try too hard to be nice to this person.