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Interview: Kathy Shaidle on Confessions of a Failed Slut

April 10th, 2014 - 7:56 pm

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“Push back against the age as hard as it pushes against you,” Flannery O’Connor famously said was her motto, and certainly Kathy Shaidle’s writing lives up to that ideal. As she told me during our new interview, “I grew up in the ‘70s and ‘80s, being born in the ‘60s, and in those days, it was all about free love and women should be able to have sex just like men and casual sex is great.  And let’s all read Cosmo’s sex tips and ‑‑ and sort of recreate Sex and the City in our actual lives,” the author of the popular Five Feet of Fury Blog, and a frequent contributor to PJ Media, Taki’s Magazine, and other Websites says.

Kathy’s new book, Confessions of A Failed Slut, an anthology of several of her related articles, “is my story of having tried and failed to live up to these social messages that were just everywhere when I was growing up, and finding that deep down, I wasn’t really temperamentally or morally, shall we say, cut out for a life of nonstop, no-fault, casual sex, and just sleeping around and pretending not to care, and doing the walk of shame and all that stuff.”

During our 29-minute interview, Kathy will explore:

● How the Love Boat, that weekly video voyage of the Hollywood damned, caused Kathy to begin seeing the world is “though a Gen-X filter of self-defensive snark.”

● Why Glen Close’s character in Fatal Attraction is “one of the most misunderstood females on film.”

● Why today’s women in rock and pop make the first generation of women in punk rock seem positively chaste by comparison.

● How TV’s Dr. Phil caused a Twitter storm when his show tweeted, “If a girl is drunk, is it OK to have sex with her?”

● In a pop culture obsessed with sex, why does it seem like the male metrosexual is so…asexual?

● Just because you’re paranoid, doesn’t mean somebody of the opposite sex isn’t out to meet you: Going undercover in the 9/11-“Truther”-themed InfoWars Internet dating site.

● How to break free of the Nanny State’s crushing group hug.

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The author of the article neglected the most important part of Flannery O'Connor quote. I don't believe that Miss O'Connor would be interested in the book or interview. Or, would have some choice recommendations...

“Push back against the age as hard as it pushes against you. What people don’t realize is how much religion costs. They think faith is a big electric blanket, when of course it is the cross.” Flannery O’connor
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An excellent interview, Mr. Driscoll! Many thanks.

One of many questions this raises in my head might make for an interesting article. What questions are we no longer allowed to ask in public?

Larry Summers was fired for asking a question. And that was just the beginning. I think it could be cathartic to list The Questions That Must Not Be Asked... and perhaps get the ball rolling. Even if we can't answer these questions, at least we can try to talk about them.
36 weeks ago
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Any woman who writes "....cuntish human toothache..." is aces in my book.
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Well Kathy's discussions on 80s music are always interesting. While her 80s female punk singers were definitely chaste by comparison with today's trollops, I like to think that whenever today's "music" "personalities" try to be provocative or push the envelope, they are so lame. It's been done before. I got one name for ya: Wendy O. Late, of the Plasmatics.

Lesbian kisses, twerking, whatever. Wendy O was playing chainsaw wearing nothing but whipped cream before Madonna sucked her first skin flute.
36 weeks ago
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I enjoyed reading Kathy Shaidle's interview. I will definitely get her book. Her discussions on contemporary society I find very interesting and right to the point of what a lot of us are experiencing. She's right that we are the ones we've been waiting for to change the direction our country is in.
36 weeks ago
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Good insight about current female pop stars under pressure to conform to the demands of looking like a sexual beast, regardless of how their artistic vision may have initially motivated them. I think though, that the female artists of the punk era were freer to be themselves not as a result of their indie record labels, but rather the dictates of the punk ethos, which was extremely counter culture. No fluffy Farrah Fawcett hair, make-up, or frills. Safety pins through flesh and ragged mismatched clothing did evolve into a kind of punk glam, but even that contrived look wasn't really designed to make the Average Joe think lustful thoughts.
36 weeks ago
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I enjoyed the interview very much.

Regarding the Twitter story, I have reached the conclusion that social media attracts many incredibly shallow people who only use the sites because they are readily available on their phones. It also seems to me that many media outfits follow this trend by posting stories that are most likely to get these shallow thinkers to retweet or hit Share. They use the lowest denominator to advertise.

So the Facebook posts or tweets are worded in a reactionary way, and tend to be the most sensational headlines. This leads to great numbers of people inflaming irrelevancies or preventing conversations that should occur.
36 weeks ago
36 weeks ago Link To Comment
The author of the article neglected the most important part of Flannery O'Connor quote. I don't believe that Miss O'Connor would be interested in the book or interview. Or, would have some choice recommendations...

“Push back against the age as hard as it pushes against you. What people don’t realize is how much religion costs. They think faith is a big electric blanket, when of course it is the cross.” Flannery O’connor
36 weeks ago
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Fascinating interview. I particularly admire the way pop culture is exposed as actually limiting individual freedom and not promoting it. The idea of fighting with relatives over Thanksgiving dinner over ideas and beliefs sounds interesting but persuasion by example is also satisfying. Still, a turkey leg thrown across the table at grandma has possibilities!
36 weeks ago
36 weeks ago Link To Comment
An excellent interview, Mr. Driscoll! Many thanks.

One of many questions this raises in my head might make for an interesting article. What questions are we no longer allowed to ask in public?

Larry Summers was fired for asking a question. And that was just the beginning. I think it could be cathartic to list The Questions That Must Not Be Asked... and perhaps get the ball rolling. Even if we can't answer these questions, at least we can try to talk about them.
36 weeks ago
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Actually one of Larry Elders books is called 10 Things You Can't Say in America, but it probably needs to be expanded and updated, sadly.
36 weeks ago
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"What questions are we no longer allowed to ask in public?"

There are no questions I would refrain from asking in public, except maybe one that was personal or prying for a particular individual.

Intimidation of free expression is the central underlying component of the Left's putsch.
36 weeks ago
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Any woman who writes "....cuntish human toothache..." is aces in my book.
36 weeks ago
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Just an aside, Kathy - you mentioned being petrified by John Houseman's character in "Paper Chase." Well, I once had a passing acquaintance with one of his sons, Sebastian (who was attending Art college here). He told me that the character as represented WAS his Dad, and he once shuddered at the thought of him actually teaching.
36 weeks ago
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So he probably didn't deserve that Oscar, since he was just playing himself! :-)
36 weeks ago
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Nah, if that was truly his "normal" personality, it was noteworthy.

An American "Milord," if you will.
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