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CNBC: Men work longer, women complain more: Survey

Still, the survey shows that women are more “type-A” about it, and they are more likely to complain about the extra hours and feeling burned out. Men, however, were more likely just eat it and shut up, continuing to work after they got home on weeknight and weekends.

Of course, this money article at US News & World Report has the typical response to this question:

Even as society closes gender gaps in parenting, marriage and the workplace, we’re still pretty convinced that men and women are innately different in some ways. One 2013 study from Penn Medicine illustrated neurological differences between the sexes. For instance, the study found men tend to be better at performing a single task that’s in front of them, like navigating directions, while women have better multitasking and social cognition skills.

Studies like these back up male-female differences that may have intuited long before now. Still, basic differences in how we interact with the world shouldn’t mean that one gender is worse off when it comes to money. But, unfortunately, that’s what we see.

A 2015 National Debt Relief survey of 1,107 adults with credit card debt revealed some interesting differences between the sexes. In the survey, the main difference between men and women was the amount of credit card debt they carried.

For instance, 63 percent of women ages 18 to 24 carried some credit card debt, but only 36 percent of men in that age category had any debt. Similarly, 66 percent of women ages 55 to 64 carried credit card debt, but only 33 percent of men in that age bracket had credit card debt.

So why the split, and what can women do about these troubling statistics?

Adam Tijerina, consumer advocate for National Debt Relief, says several potential reasons for this gender gap exist. However, he speculates that the most likely culprit is that women are still paid less than men.

The only national relief Adam Tijerina is looking for is relief from being attacked by feminists or others who think that it is discrimination, not the women using the credit cards who are responsible for their own debt. Sure, the article makes a lame stab at admitting that there are other reasons women might be in debt besides their “unequal” pay, but there is little elaboration. Women control most of the money in the U.S., but somehow, they are in credit card debt because of lack of cash? It makes little sense.

Okay readers, I know this is just clickbait, but Right Wing News has announced the 20 Hottest Conservative Women in New Media and I must say the judges have good taste. You can view their choices here.

Crime is not random. Victims are chosen.

June 24th, 2015 - 9:58 am

So says Rory Miller in his new book on violence entitled Conflict Communication: A New Paradigm in Conscious Communication. From the book description:

This book presents a functional taxonomy to see, understand and manipulate the roots of life’s conflicts. You will have the background, the principles, and a collection of tricks to manage and ideally avoid dangerous conflicts.

You may not realize that your reactions to conflict are subconscious, scripted, and for the good of the group. Once recognized, you can take actions that will reduce your chances of being caught up in conflicts.

After reading this book, you can never go back. Even if you refuse to admit how often your monkey brain has controlled your life, escalations leading to conflict will never again be invisible to you.

The author served as a veteran corrections officer for 17 years as an officer and sergeant working maximum security, booking, and mental health. Predators, he says, choose victims who satisfy their needs at an acceptable level of risk. Some predators are working to get money or taking something from a victim that can be turned into money. Others are addicted to different types of thrills, and hence look for big men to beat up, women they can make cry or they need to hurt someone who looks like their mother.

The book gives the reader tactics, tools, and techniques to help manage conflict when in a dangerous or violent situation or just confronted with a difficult co-worker. But it is better to avoid violence in the first place. The book essentially teaches you how not to be that chosen victim but explains what to do if you are to deescalate the situation. He teaches how to set boundaries, work from common ground and build rapport.

I was a bit perturbed by Miller’s constant stereotypes about what nasty asses men were and how women seemed to be victims rather than perps in most examples, but overall, the book has some decent communication tips for those readers who want to have a few verbal tricks to use next time they meet up with unexpected conflict.

June 23rd, 2015 - 5:56 am

Vox Day interviews Roosh:

And I look at what the media and the universities are showing us now and I see Bruce Jenner being celebrated for being mentally ill, and I think I am going insane here! It doesn’t make sense why this is happening. We are living in a weird time and it scares me. I’m not even there in the USA and I am thinking that maybe on the ground it is not that bad, but then I go there to visit and it is that bad. People are now reciting talking points that five years ago I would have said are weird. Now it is part of the general audience and in how they act. Now people are calling everything sexist. I remember in the US last year, I heard a woman use the word microaggression and I thought that was a joke the first time I heard it. Now it is becoming common and I am thinking, man, I don’t know how it is getting here and I wish I could stop it but I can’t. (Laughs) What we have to do as men is hold on. This is not going to end well.

Happy Father’s Day

June 21st, 2015 - 3:45 am

Congrats to all the Dads out there for all they do for their families.

I decided recently that my health sucked and spending my days at the doctor or physical therapist’s office did not sound like a good time. So I picked up Wheat Belly: Lose the Wheat, Lose the Weight, and Find Your Path Back to Health and Becoming a Supple Leopard 2nd Edition: The Ultimate Guide to Resolving Pain, Preventing Injury, and Optimizing Athletic Performance and dropped them on my desk to read everyday to keep myself on track.

The theory behind the Wheat Belly book is that wheat in its current form is bad for you:

Over 200 million Americans consume food products made of wheat every day. As a result, over 100 million experience some form of adverse health effect, ranging from minor rashes to high blood sugar to unattractive stomach bulges preventative cardiologist William Davis calls “wheat bellies.” According to Davis, that excess fat has nothing to do with gluttony, sloth, or too much butter: it’s due to the whole grain wraps we eat for lunch.

After witnessing over 2,000 patients regain health after giving up wheat, Davis reached the disturbing conclusion that wheat is the single largest contributor to the nationwide obesity epidemic–and that elimination of wheat is key to dramatic weight loss and optimal health. In national bestseller, Dr. Davis exposes the harmful effects of what is actually a product of genetic tinkering and agribusiness being sold to the American public as “wheat”–and provides readers with a user-friendly, step-by-step plan to navigate a new wheat-free lifestyle

At first, I thought the wheat theory didn’t ring true for me. I had gone to a gastroenterologist who tested me for Celiac disease or gluten sensitivity and the tests were negative. But my husband told me to try giving up wheat for a while just to see if I might feel better. I must say I was skeptical but for the past week I gave up wheat and I do feel ….better. Not great, but better than I did. My stomach and hands were always swollen and I attributed that to heart problems. After a week off wheat, my stomach is flatter and I notice that the rings on my hand are easier to get off and on. I am not as hungry as I was and now that I can eat a ton of protein for every meal, I am not as desperate for something sweet all day. The cravings are still there, but not as bad.

So how do you give yourself a radical wheat-ectomy? According to the book, you stop eating foods such as snack foods, rice, potatoes and grains. This wasn’t tough for me as I don’t eat that much of these foods, but I do eat wheat for lunch most days in the form of pita bread or plain toast so I quit. So what do you eat? Vegetables, raw nuts, oil, meat and eggs, dairy products, coffee, tea, and some chocolate if you want something sweet.

This is tough for me as I am allergic to vegetables such as carrots, cauliflower and a host of others as well as chocolate. Dr. Davis isn’t a fan of oatmeal but since the book mentioned that it wasn’t terrible, I stuck with that for breakfast, egg whites and cheese for lunch and meat and vegetables that I could tolerate for dinner. The big problem with this diet are the snacks or lack thereof. The book has recipes such as Dark Chocolate Tofu Mousse and Ginger Spice cookies, but I can’t eat chocolate and making cookies for me doesn’t sound promising. Dr. Davis suggests you eat cheese, so I ate most of the single servings of cheese my husband had in the fridge for his own snacks and that seemed to work if I was hungry in the afternoon.

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Becoming a Supple Leopard

June 17th, 2015 - 4:16 pm

I am currently reading the new edition of Becoming a Supple Leopard 2nd Edition: The Ultimate Guide to Resolving Pain, Preventing Injury, and Optimizing Athletic Performance and I must say, it is a pretty amazing book if you have pain from the computer or sitting. For those of you who don’t know the book, it was written by Dr. Kelly Starrett, a coach and physiotherapist who teaches humans how to move in more functional ways. If you are looking for a workout, just picking up the book will provide that as it is huge and is 480 pages of amazing information complete with pictures of various movements along with tests to see how your body measures up.

It would make a great coffee table book or just a great all around gift if you need something for Father’s Day. Or if, like me, you are more of a pained jackal than a supple leopard, the book might provide some help in resolving some of the toll modern living has taken on your posture and health. I hope to post more on the book as I read more.

I read the headline over at the Washington Post (via Newsalert) and I can’t say I was surprised:

The average American woman weighs 166.2 pounds, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. As reddit recently pointed out, that’s almost exactly as much as the average American man weighed in the early 1960s.

Men, you’re not looking too hot in this scenario either. Over the same time period you gained nearly 30 pounds, from 166.3 in the 60s to 195.5 today. Doing the same comparison as above, today’s American man weighs almost as much as 1.5 American women from the 1960s. At 195.5 pounds, put five American guys in a room and you’ve gathered roughly half a ton of manhood.

Overall weight gain since 1960 is slightly greater for women (18.5 percent) than for men (17.6 percent). And both sexes have gained roughly an inch in height over the same period, which accounts for some of that weight gain.

Maybe the weight is seen as unsightly by some, but on average, those who are overweight but not obese might be healthier. I imagine it matters how much one weighs in proportion to height and if the person is active and healthy vs. overweight and sedentary. I must admit that at five foot six, if I weighed 166, I would be a mess. Unfortunately (or fortunately?), I can’t carry that kind of weight but some women can.

Also read: 

Is Obesity a Disease or a Moral Failing?

The Nation is Not Your Extended Family

June 13th, 2015 - 7:10 am

I thought about this as I read a new book from the Fraser Institute called The Essential Hayek. The book shares the ideas of Friedrich A. Hayek in a simple to read short book:

Nobel laureate economist F.A.Hayek first revolutionized economists’ understanding of markets, and then profoundly challenged the public’s understanding of government. Hayek is one of only a few social scientists over the past 200 years who thoroughly rethought the relationship between individual people and both the market and the state. While countless works have discussed the importance of Hayek and his ideas, none have focused on making his core ideas accessible to average people. This volume highlights and explains Hayek’s basic insights in plain language to ensure that his critical ideas about the nature of society are both accessible and enduring.

In Chapter 9 on “The challenge of living successfully in modern society,” the author, Donald J.Boudreaux shares Hayek’s wisdom on the problems with treating the greater society like our extended family:

Part of our present difficulty is that we must constantly adjust our lives, our thoughts and our emotions, in order to live simultaneously within the different kinds of orders according to different rules. If we were to apply the unmodified, uncurbed, rules of the micro-cosmos (i.e. of the small band or troop, or of, say, our families) to the macro-cosmos (our wider civilisation), as our instincts and sentimental yearnings often make us wish to do, we would destroy it. Yet if we were always to apply the rules of the extended order to our more intimate groupings, we would crush them. So we must learn to live in two sorts of world at once.

The book points out that for those that we know, love and care for, it makes sense to make economic decisions not commercially, but by mutual agreement or with mom or dad making decisions. However, this works because the people involved know each other and can figure out what approach works best (unless dysfunctional which is also common these days). But the same cannot be said of strangers; we do not know what is best for other people we don’t know. In this case, it is best to follow impersonal rules with “arms length” exchanges and contracts.

“These exchanges and contracts give rise to market prices. These prices, in turn, guide each of us to act productively–both as consumers and as producers–with the increasingly large numbers of strangers who make our modern lives possible.”

As the media and government focus on making strangers personal friends and focus on “doing something” to relieve the suffering, it can often be a mistake. These practices can be counterproductive and lead to negative outcomes such as people and thus, the country becoming less productive over time.

Nowadays, over 50 percent of the population wants stuff for free as they relax on their parent’s couch and eat potato chips. But “a government big enough to give you everything you want, is a government big enough to take away everything that you have.” It’s just a matter of time. Hayek knew this and he will be forever relevant.