There have been some pretty weird trends. From saggy britches to pet rocks, people have embraced some bizarre ideas of what is cool. The fashions of the ’70s and ’80s give testament to that all on their own.
However, now there’s something happening that is described as a growing trend that tops them all. It seems that an increasing number of people are marrying themselves.
“I would describe it as women saying yes to themselves,” [Erika] Anderson said. “It means that we are enough, even if we are not partnered with someone else.”
In many ways, the 37-year-old bride looked like any other on her wedding day. She wore a white dress and had a bouquet. Anderson looked stunning with the Brooklyn bridge and New York City skyline behind her.
Except when she walked down the aisle, no one was waiting for her. That’s just the way she wanted it.
Anderson said she grew tired of people asking why she was still single. So, in front of family and friends she married herself.
Self-marriage—or sologamy—is growing. Partly because it’s popping up in pop culture, like when an episode of ‘Sex and the City’ floated the idea.
Of course, this idea will only last as long as it takes for the individual to meet someone special. Anderson admits as much, saying she’s open to dating and marriage with someone else.
Frankly, this may be one of the dumber things we’ve seen in recent history. While gay marriage was controversial, there were advantages for gay couples who wanted to get married. Being able to list each other as dependents on insurance, for example, or survivor benefits. Those were real, tangible things to fight for.
With “sologamy,” there’s no advantage, there’s no reason except to pretend that you’re just fine being alone. It’s not a lifestyle, it’s an affection. It’s either a mental disorder masquerading as a courageous choice, or it’s a willfully selected delusion designed to mask feelings of loneliness or abnormality.
However, it will be applauded as some brave choice, probably with a place in the next version of the LGBT alphabet soup that no one can keep up with. Meanwhile, those who marry themselves will continue to feel the loneliness or abnormality or whatever else they were feeling before and have done absolutely nothing to better their lives. Nothing at all.
This isn’t normal, and it shouldn’t be permitted to be normalized. Ever.
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