Dr. Helen

Hate Has No Home Here

I was walking around NYC and saw one of those “Hate Has No Home Here” signs and thought about that message as I read a repulsive op-ed piece in the Washington Post. The piece, entitled “Why Can’t We Hate Men?” was written by a hater named Suzanna Danuta Walters, a “professor of sociology and director of the Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies Program at Northeastern University and the editor of the gender studies journal Signs.”

That description tells you all you need to know about how she feels about men but she also had the need to put her hate in writing just in case you missed the subtle signs. From the article:

It’s not that Eric Schneiderman (the now-former New York attorney general accused of abuse by multiple women) pushed me over the edge. My edge has been crossed for a long time, before President Trump, before Harvey Weinstein, before “mansplaining” and “incels.” Before live-streaming sexual assaults and red pill men’s groups and rape camps as a tool of war and the deadening banality of male prerogative.

Seen in this indisputably true context, it seems logical to hate men. I can’t lie, I’ve always had a soft spot for the radical feminist smackdown, for naming the problem in no uncertain terms. I’ve rankled at the “but we don’t hate men” protestations of generations of would-be feminists and found the “men are not the problem, this system is” obfuscation too precious by half. …

So, in this moment, here in the land of legislatively legitimated toxic masculinity, is it really so illogical to hate men? For all the power of #MeToo and #TimesUp and the women’s marches, only a relatively few men have been called to task, and I’ve yet to see a mass wave of prosecutions or even serious recognition of wrongdoing. On the contrary, cries of “witch hunt” and the plotted resurrection of celebrity offenders came quick on the heels of the outcry over endemic sexual harassment and violence. But we’re not supposed to hate them because . . . #NotAllMen. I love Michelle Obama as much as the next woman, but when they have gone low for all of human history, maybe it’s time for us to go all Thelma and Louise and Foxy Brown on their collective butts. …

So men, if you really are #WithUs and would like us to not hate you for all the millennia of woe you have produced and benefited from, start with this: Lean out so we can actually just stand up without being beaten down. Pledge to vote for feminist women only. Don’t run for office. Don’t be in charge of anything. Step away from the power. We got this. And please know that your crocodile tears won’t be wiped away by us anymore. We have every right to hate you. You have done us wrong. #BecausePatriarchy. It is long past time to play hard for Team Feminism. And win.

When I see signs that say “Hate Has No Home Here,” it reminds me that with social justice warrior types who wave these signs, there is always hate. It is just directed at someone outside their group–many times at men. It is just a cover for their contempt and hatred. The author is angry that women don’t protest loudly their hate for men and maybe she is doing the rest of us a service. Angry feminists will frequently tell you they don’t hate men and deny it when people say they do. But in many cases, it is true. The hate is there, now it is becoming more blatant instead of subtle.

I have seen at least three businesses lately that have signs or t-shirts in the window that boldly state: “The Future is Female,” probably placed there by someone (male or female) who thinks they are a good and altruistic person who doesn’t hate. But they are wrong. Advertising, whether it be in the Washington Post or a storefront window, that men are to be hated or excluded from the future of America is hate in its rawest form, plain and simple.

I have but five words for these social justice warriors who think that they are just speaking truth to power: “Hate Has No Home Here.” It never will; as long as you hate men and innocent boys in this country, you are the problem, not the solution. And the rest of us will treat you as such.

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