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My Nomination for Worst Dad of 2014

Is this Feminist Father for real?

by
Bonnie Ramthun

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January 6, 2014 - 11:00 am

I spotted this on a Facebook site styling itself “The Other 98%.” Dear Lord, I hope that’s not true.

feminist father

What is wrong with this t-shirt? Besides everything? Let’s just list a few items:

1.) This father is abdicating his responsibility to put boundaries around his dating-age daughter until she’s mature enough to make good decisions on her own. We don’t let our toddlers alone near swimming pools and we shouldn’t let our teenage daughters and sons make their own dating rules.  They will make bad ones because they don’t know any better yet.  This is called “parenting.”

2.) By declaring that his daughter makes the rules and he is not responsible for her, he is signaling to every male predator out there that his daughter is available for victimization.  Or as Barney Stinson says on How I Met Your Mother, “How would we get strippers if girls didn’t have lousy daddies?”  This father is advertising his daughter to bad men.  Boy Scouts will not be asking this teenage girl out on dates.  Her fifty-year-old married schoolteacher will be.

3.) Feminist Father.  Feminist?  This word might have meant something brave and honest fifty years ago, but is now irrevocably associated with abortion on demand up to and including infanticide after birth, hatred of marriage and men, and a whiny victim status that desires complete equality with men unless they can’t compete, and then the rules should be changed.  This is what this father calls himself, and he is evidently encouraging this attitude in his daughter.  (Are you surprised he could even father a child?)

4.) The fact that this meme even exists is both pathetic and disturbing.  Are such men so emasculated, so morally adrift, that they would actually wear such a thing?

Let’s hope it’s just a meme, and not an actual t-shirt.  If I saw a man wearing it, he’d end up crying like a little girl, and nobody wants to see that.

Bonnie Ramthun lives in Colorado with her husband and children. She's the author of mysteries and thrillers for adults and children. Her middle grade mystery "The White Gates' was a Junior Library Guild premiere selection and was a finalist for the Missouri Truman award. All her novels are available on Amazon.

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That's a rather charitable interpretation; one that, when called out for their promiscuity promotions, the misandrists (euphemistically known as "feminists") would likely trot out as a fig leaf: "Well, it's her body, so she can do--or not do--whatever she wants with it." In practice, however, any girl who chooses chastity and matrimony over promiscuity and misandry will regularly be ostracized by all politically correct members of her social circles.

Moreover, even that charitable interpretation still amounts to a despicable abdication of responsibility as a father. Fathers are supposed to protect their daughters, and making and enforcing rules until the children are old enough to do so for themselves is one way of doing that. Until the girl is mature enough to be living on her own, appealing to Daddy's rules to resist sexual pressure is a perfectly legitimate tactic, and ought to be encouraged.

If someone wants to be all edgy and independent-minded about it, the shirt should read "For sale: one daughter's virginity. Price: one mutual set of wedding vows. Rentals NOT available. All sales are final."
15 weeks ago
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Rules for dating my daughter:
1. I make the rules around here.
2. Due to our twisted society's political correctness you are remarkably expendable; lead my little girl astray in any way, and you will disappear without a trace very suddenly and very mysteriously.
3. For as long as she lives under my roof, refer to rule 1.
4. In the unlikely event that SHE is the one attempting to lead YOU astray, reporting this to me at once greatly increases both your life expectancy and the odds that she will be grounded for the duration of it.
15 weeks ago
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When my daughter is ready to date I will be the first to chauffer her on that first date. And I don't think forty is too young these days.
15 weeks ago
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Probably not his real kid. I suspect there's a bad boy or, better yet, a turkey baster who's a closer DNA match.
8 weeks ago
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Guess it depends upon how old the daughter in question is. If we all assume she is young than the shirt is terribly lame. If she's in college, less so.
13 weeks ago
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On another site today, I saw a list of rules for men. The author dared not say "wait until you get married" and settled for "only with a girl you intend to marry". Even then he was attacked.

I find the "she makes the rules" interesting. You mean the man is not in charge of his own body?

(P.S. - My nephew and niece are starting to go out. In both cases, when the young man comes to a young lady's house, the father sits him down and talks to him. And if a guy ever made a move on a girl, not only would she never see him again, but his reputation would be damaged and he would find it difficult to find another girl.)
14 weeks ago
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Am I the only one who thinks the shirt tries to make a totally different point? The idea of "she makes the rules" on this shirt is not "she is a loose woman so have fun, kids", but "don't pressure her into sex" and "if she says 'no' she means it".

It seems to me that "dad not making the rules" quote, in context, is an anwer in advance to the boyfriend's insistent question, "why don't you want to, because dad will be angry?", not "I don't care about what she does".

I might have not stated things this way on the shirt but I hardly think it's supposed to be a declaration of abdication of responsiblity as a parent. It's just badly phrased.

A tempest in a teapot.
15 weeks ago
15 weeks ago Link To Comment
That's a rather charitable interpretation; one that, when called out for their promiscuity promotions, the misandrists (euphemistically known as "feminists") would likely trot out as a fig leaf: "Well, it's her body, so she can do--or not do--whatever she wants with it." In practice, however, any girl who chooses chastity and matrimony over promiscuity and misandry will regularly be ostracized by all politically correct members of her social circles.

Moreover, even that charitable interpretation still amounts to a despicable abdication of responsibility as a father. Fathers are supposed to protect their daughters, and making and enforcing rules until the children are old enough to do so for themselves is one way of doing that. Until the girl is mature enough to be living on her own, appealing to Daddy's rules to resist sexual pressure is a perfectly legitimate tactic, and ought to be encouraged.

If someone wants to be all edgy and independent-minded about it, the shirt should read "For sale: one daughter's virginity. Price: one mutual set of wedding vows. Rentals NOT available. All sales are final."
15 weeks ago
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Well said.

No, it is NOT "her body" and she does NOT have the right to make the rules.

14 weeks ago
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Perhaps "Feminist Father" is the husband in a lesbian marriage. I note that "he" is only viewed from the back.
15 weeks ago
15 weeks ago Link To Comment
Rules for dating my daughter:
1. I make the rules around here.
2. Due to our twisted society's political correctness you are remarkably expendable; lead my little girl astray in any way, and you will disappear without a trace very suddenly and very mysteriously.
3. For as long as she lives under my roof, refer to rule 1.
4. In the unlikely event that SHE is the one attempting to lead YOU astray, reporting this to me at once greatly increases both your life expectancy and the odds that she will be grounded for the duration of it.
15 weeks ago
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When my daughter is ready to date I will be the first to chauffer her on that first date. And I don't think forty is too young these days.
15 weeks ago
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A guy that would wear that shirt would also be a "broney".

The bile rises.
15 weeks ago
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Rules for dating my daughter:

1. Stay away or die.
2. See number 1
15 weeks ago
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Sorry. But that's the worst course of action.

You can't hold onto them forever. Eventually, one way or another, they will be out from under your thumb...and then?

I have it on good authority that it's the overprotected Rapunzels who go "buck-wild" when they're finally away from mommy and daddy.

Best to raise them right, show them through example how men and women are supposed to relate and let them know what's not acceptable.
15 weeks ago
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The most libertine girl I ever knew, sadly not in the "biblical sense", was the 17 year old daughter of a Southern Baptist preacher. She was quite the artist and on the long bus-ride (30 miles) home from high school she would share with me the daily pornographic sketches she had made.



15 weeks ago
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I can't even figure who/where/why someone would come up with something like this. Too stupid to be a joke, no father would think this way, even a feminist understands that minor kids require supervision. And a teen-age girl wants her father involved and attentive (even if they protest otherwise).

I have daughters. I don't bother learning my daughter's boyfriends names. I just assign them a number; dash 1, dash 2, dash 3 etc. as they come and go. Not gonna get attached, and I explain to the young men it keeps me from humanizing them and making it harder to do what I might need to do. That's normally right after I ask them if they have a current will.

15 weeks ago
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"no father would think this way, even a feminist understands that minor kids require supervision"

I wish you were right, but you are badly wrong on both counts.

This kind of garbage is getting to be considered NORMAL.
14 weeks ago
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"And you! I've got a .45 and shovel. You wouldn't be missed."

--Clueless, 1995
15 weeks ago
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