So says Sarah Hoyt, author of Darkship Thieves in a post about women’s demands for free birth control:
If you truly believe refusing to force employers to pay for birth control is a war on women, then you are fragile little flowers who deserve to experience life practically anywhere else in the world. You are also unleashing a monster. Get the government to force this and NOTHING is out of bonds. Forget selling you the rope to hang you with. The government will eventually force you to pay them to hang you….I know! Let’s make war on men, and refuse to listen to them when they’re abused, ignore their claims to their children, take away their right to choose if they want to be fathers (and pay for it) or not, design the school system so it doesn’t fit either their learning style or their development and oh, yes, drug them so they don’t act like boys AND all the while scream that they’re the ones hurting us.
Read the rest of the post, Hoyt has good insight into what is truly happening to men in our society. But while talking is good, action is better. What men don’t understand is that this is a cultural war and it is being waged by women and their “Uncle Tims” in government and elsewhere against the average American male. Men have a hard time fighting back because they cannot psychologically go against the women they have been taught to protect, but that is changing and it should.
…but that is changing and it should. I’d be very, very careful about wishing this. Over the past 5000 years or so society has evolved a rather extensive set of rules to civilize males and keep our natural tendencies within bounds. Civilization per se is primarily a female construct, after all, built by men to keep their families safe.
The number, variety, and intensity of stresses the average American man must cope with in the course of an average day is well beyond anything our forebears had to face. And then he comes home to a wife who he can only hope isn’t a covert enemy.
Peace between the major American parties and ideologies is gone. Peace between nations has always been a fantasy. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could have peace between the sexes? Just for the variety of it.
This is spot on right, but before all you guys high five each other, please don’t lump conservative women into your list of enemies. We are on your side. Real women love our husbands, sons, brothers, and fathers.
Men aren’t fighting back, they are going Galt. I know so many men who will never marry again, not after the arrests and restraining orders by a vindictive ex-wife. Filing false abuse charges against a soon to be ex-husband seems to be a standard practice these days.
They won’t even get serious dating a woman because they will never, ever put themselves at the mercy of woman (legally or emotionally) again.
I cautiously agree, however I think many women get these restraining orders because male anger frightens them and they don’t want to go through the fights leading up to divorce. It’s cowardly, but men don’t understand the power their anger has over us.
Well I suppose I’m one of the Galt-men then. To be honest, I have never been married but after seeing the decades (I really mean decades) of torture ex-wives have inflicted on my father (2 ex-wives) I see no reason to participate in this bunk. I’ve made the decision for myself that if I want children, I will adopt one or two when I am financially stable. There are too many ways for a woman to screw a man over anymore and the “physical violence concerns” all women cite are outrageous, to say the least. In fact, let’s do a generic tally on this, shall we? The wife / partner / girlfriend decides to screw her man over by cheating / kidnapping the kids / amassing debt / becoming a druggie.
The man takes her to court and demands that he get sole guardianship because the mother is a terrible role model to their children. She, in her defense, fabricates a story that makes him seem to be the most angry, evil person on planet Earth. No proof, no evidence, and -sometimes- relatives to vouch for her. The verdict? The man loses his children, his guardianship, is forced to pay child support, may have no access to his children, and may go to jail for domestic violence.
Meet my dad’s experience in both of his relationships with his wives. My mother didn’t like that he made the money for them to live while she raised me at home, so she kidnapped me and disappeared out of his life for a decade. He filed for guardianship in an effort to regain his relationship with me. She claimed that he mentally abused her, with no proof, and the judge forbid him from having any contact with me.
His second wife, whom he has two children with, was a raging drug addict with no ability to retain a job. She stole over $5k from my father to fund her habit. He took her to court to divorce her and recover his lost money and she claimed mental and emotional abuse as her defense for her habits. The court gave her guardianship, forced him to pay child support, forced him to split everything he had with her, -and- she kept the kids. They were exposed to daily parties at the ages of 3 and 4, were exposed to rampant cases of lice by the ages of 6 and 7, and the entire time the court system told my father that he was an unfit parent.
I lobbied the court on my father’s behalf and managed to give him guardianship, as it should have been to begin with. They were mentally unstable because of the constant exposure to drugs and alcohol and they had hair lice to the point that it took us -six months- to get rid of it all. Their first and second year of school had photos of them being almost bald. That was the excellent care they received from their “fit parent”.
So yes, I am going Galt. I do not trust a woman to be a pure Virgin Mary and never give in to the temptation of using the government against me. The first time that I ask something she doesn’t like, all it would take is for her to claim physical abuse and my life is ruined. I would lose everything that I have worked so hard for because of a vile creature that doesn’t know or want to know how I feel about things.
Zamir
You paint with a broad brush–just what I hoped wouldn’t happen.
So very sorry about your father–and you.
The intent of my story was to prove the excessive bias that the system itself has on giving women the automatic win condition. I don’t really bother with labeling women conservative or liberal because at the end of the day, a person’s own ambitions will drive them where they want to go. Not their ideology or political view.
Agree. Good point.
You are missing his point. Sure, there are plenty of honorable females out there, but the risks to his future, should he choose badly, are too high to try and find one, in his opinion. I don’t fault him for his caution.
Francis Porretto wrote: “The number, variety, and intensity of stresses the average American man must cope with in the course of an average day is well beyond anything our forebears had to face.”
No, not the stress; though it isn’t trivial either. What’s beyond anything our forebears faced is the crap. But we’ll cope — that’s just what men do.
Dr. H, thanks for linking Sarah Hoyt. Interesting writer. I just downloaded one of her story collections: Five Far Futures.
Keith, you might be interested in scanning the contributors list to your right.
Men as a group have always been less interested in hearth and home than women and as a result they have been enticed into marrage by perks such as increased status and a chance for advancement. The competant dependable males can now do very nicely thank you as singles with the advent of micowave dinners and appliances and don’t think that getting into a long term relationship is worth the risks. What is left in many respects is not worth having. A view of where this leads is in the Afro-American community where almost 70% of the children are in single parent families. It is largely pointless to sue for child support because the men have nothing, and as a bonus the sons often have complete contempt for women since there is not a responsible adult male role model in the family. The traditional family is far from perfect from a woman’s position but it is superior to what this new defacto set of relationships provides. What’s to be done? I have no idea.
A gradual return to the old model is not likely since the informal social controls have been destroyed and a large proportion of the men willing to get married are not particularly responsible and are not likely to be controled by the informal norms. I suspect that the new norms will not be to their liking at all if we are lucky. Otherwise, get used to wearing a burka.
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