Male-Female Hour on Dennis Prager Today: Pick Up Lines, For or Against?
The subject of the Male-Female Hour on today’s Dennis Prager show was lighter than most and a welcome diversion from the constant primary trash talk: pick up lines. What are effective ways a man can let a woman know he finds her attractive without appearing like a creep or an idiot?
After all, in today’s politically correct world what’s intended as an innocent pick-up line can be interpreted as sexual harassment.
One of the callers made the obvious point that pick up lines needed to be considered in context. The kinds of things that might work for a 19-year-old college kid at the club isn’t what the 45-year-old divorcee should use when he meets a woman at a book store.
During the hour Dennis sat incredulous at some of the cheesy lines his callers used. When finding that some even worked he had to lament that perhaps his standards were too high.
Maybe it’s just that lines are effective in different locations to attract specific kinds of women.
For example, this list of Star Wars pick up lines has a few chuckles and could be of use to those cruising for dates at Star Wars conventions. This one might work if accompanied by the right costume:
Anybody else have any suggestions here? Any pick-up lines work or fail for you? What should a man say to break the ice and make a good first impression?
If you really feel moved to say a woman is beautiful then say “By god you’re a beautiful woman.” If she’s PC or eternally offended you can instantly move on. If she’s moved you can move in. Honesty is the best policy and rhetoric a way to explain away pheromones. It’s natural and honest. If young people truly understood how much of what they do is moved by mother nature’s instincts and not reason or thoughts, they’d have a lot more fun. On the other hand you have to be able to have a good time with a woman so sex is not the be all and end all. May as well get a hooker if you’re attitude is to drive the lane for a dunk. Enjoy the journey or you’ll never see its end but instead be fouled in the lane and shoot free throws all alone at the line.
Does your daddy know you’re out this late? Said to a 45 year old.
I like your hair style. If you notice something different about her hair, comment on it. I learned something in 34 years of marriage!
There is one line that works 100% of the time, if it is delivered convincingly:
“Hi, I’m incredibly wealthy.”
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Since I’m not quite that wealthy, I’ve always done very well with “Hello. You’re incredibly attractive.”
It takes 3 seconds, and if she isn’t interested, I’m gone in less than 3 more. Otherwise, I’ve found a new interesting person to be a potential friend. If things are looking promising for sex, I say so, and ask if she feels the same. If she says yes, I thank her and we leave, if no, then I thank her and I leave. If she’s appalled that I’d ask, I explain that the matter is too serious for innuendo and I respect her too much to try the seduction games that are so popular. Generally, at that point she’ll say yes, and we leave. Come to think of it, no girl has ever told me no at that point.
Oh, and ANYTHING you say can be construed as sexual harassment. And cheesey pickup lines NEVER work. Neither do ultra suave lines. Lines don’t seduce anybody, they just serve as a ritual to break the ice.
Women are seduced by men appearing to be a good provider or a superior genetic specimen, depending upon which they happen to be in the mood for. A pickup line ‘working’ is an ice-breaker that doesn’t get you instantly disqualified.
Every one of the eight Star Wars lines would disqualify you as bantha poodoo. If you must use a Star Wars line, say “The Phantom Menace could have been saved by casting you.” She’ll grin and demand “Which part?” Reply with “Any part where you weren’t buried under armor or makeup and people could actually see you.”
If a pickup line worked, it is because the woman already wanted you and was waiting for you to make the move, and she liked you so much she was willing to ignore the cheesy pickup line you just tried on her.
Try, “Hi, I’m [Your name goes here].” Delivered with a smile, good eye contact, and confident body language.
How does she know you like her and are interested? You are there attempting to talk to her.
How do you know if she likes you? If it is easy to keep the conversation going after ‘Hi’, she likes you. If it is difficult to keep it going, she doesn’t.
Checking her out repeatedly from across the room lets her know too, but it makes you look creepy or like you lack confidence, neither of which is attractive.
There is no pickup, women decide somewhere between the moment they see you and the first 3 minutes of conversation where you fit, potential lover, potential provider (boyfriend/husband), drone, or untouchable. All you can do is be yourself and hope that is what she wants, and then realize as quickly as possible which category she has placed you in and either make it happen, if it is what you seek, or move on if it is not.
Once categorized, the only way to move up that scale is to be a character in a Hollywood movie. It is possible to move down the scale with socially inept crap like pickup lines, bragging, talking to her boobs, or checking out other women walking past as you talk to her. It is also easy to move down the scale by not noticing when a woman is attracted to you and offers you a chance to get something going.