21ST CENTURY RELATIONSHIPS: I Don’t Want To Be The Breadwinner In My Marriage Anymore! “Now herein lies my problem — I became the breadwinner in an extreme way. I committed to supporting us for two years, but we’re going on four now, and it will likely be five. Our income divide is so extreme that I pay for 90 percent of our living expenses. What I’ve found is I can’t live this girl-power lifestyle that I believe in. . . . I hate that I want a more traditional lifestyle with a husband who can provide for me.”