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The New York Times (Hat Tip: James Taranto):

But in a debate that has focused largely on women, this fact is often overlooked: the majority of service members who are sexually assaulted each year are men.

In its latest report on sexual assault, the Pentagon estimated that 26,000 service members experienced unwanted sexual contact in 2012, up from 19,000 in 2010. Of those cases, the Pentagon says, 53 percent involved attacks on men, mostly by other men.

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Cross-posted from Dr. Helen

Helen Smith is a psychologist specializing in forensic issues in Knoxville, Tennessee, and blogs at Dr. Helen.

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Odd this reminds me of the situation that occurred when they mandated that in spousal abuse situations, and arrest must be made. Then they found that about half of spousal abuse arrests were women. That old henpecked husband, hit with a rolling pin, stereotype; was found to have a kernel of truth at it's heart.
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and that is why my sons, scions of a military family that goes back to before the founding of the Republic- a family that has had members in quite literally every war and "police action" since Plymouth Rock, will not be joining the US Military.

There aren't rape crisis centers for men. The men, shamed beyond belief, end up living on the streets, if not committing suicide. My brother's best friend spent two years absolutely unhinged, on the street, until he could sort of work his way back to enough stability to go home to his mother. He was an artist, a oil-field worker- substantial, creative, brilliant, and after his assault, he was a ghostly, under-fed,street urchin. He stank. We would take him to one of our apartments- and stand outside- he couldn't be in a closed room with anyone- so he could shower. We'd have to hunt him down to feed him. After 18 months, a man with a bakery hired him for the night-shift, and let him sleep on the roof, where he could lock the door behind him.

His mother was a mental health nurse- she would have accepted him, but he was so shamed. His brother was a policeman- he could have hunted down his rapists. He was too shamed- he was from a good, stable, religious, loving home- a nearly ideal loving family. They'd taken my brother in, as a teen- that's how hospitable. He couldn't go to healing, or justice, or family, or acceptance, or near heaven, because of his shame, and grief and trauma.

My mother worked at a VA homeless shelter for two years- she's a veteran, herself. She said a surprising number of them had been brutalized like that...

I know it's clever to say that you have 'good friends who are gay'- but my friends have been raped by someone else's gay friends. Even people who are fans of gay guys talk about how direct, unboundaried, and brutal they are in satisfying their appetites. Soldiers had terrible reputations until the British and American armies insisted on Christian- based moral decency- including General George Washington hanging soldiers for the detestable crime of sodomy. Even now, most armies- including the UN's "peacekeeper" army- have criminally immoral people with guns preying on innocent victims.

42 weeks ago
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So falls our military, and with it the rest of the country. Who's going to want to fight to defend our Sodom on the Potomac as it runs roughshod over all our Constitutional rights, destroys our economy, and downsizes our soldiers while leaving the military bureaucracy untouched? Our country's on its last legs, just like the Roman Empire.

When Alaric the Visigoth stood with his armies parked on Rome's doorstep, the envoys sent to negotiate with him made the typical empty threat that any attack on Rome would be suicidal, as it would be met with endless ranks of soldiers. Alaric the Visigoth, unimpressed, made the famous reply that "The thicker the grass is, the more easily it is mowed for hay." Rome's military had declined so badly that even offering slaves their freedom and a bounty to join its ranks was insufficient to sustain its enlistments, and he knew it.

Between the feminist and sodomite corruption and corrosion of our military and our multi-trillion-dollars-in-debt Washington D.C.'s refusal to pay for its upkeep, its ranks will also soon be decimated as those soldiers who don't get downsized or desert outright simply cease to renew their enlistments. (This will be before the bureaucrats extend enlistment periods, start mandating enlistment in exchange for any kind of subsidy or welfare benefit, and maybe institute another draft, all measures which will ultimately just lead to more desertion.)

Come the day, not too many years off now, when some barbaric Chinese or Arabic or maybe even Mexican general stands ready to invade the USA, some pair of negotiators or ambassadors dispatched from an embassy or the like (worthless bureaucrats in any case) will likewise threaten the invader with our country's (pregnant, barefoot, AIDS-riddled, effeminate, and shriveled) endless ranks of soldiers and (neglected, expired, dismantled, and decommissioned) nuclear weapons. The barbarian general's reply will doubtless be something along the lines of "D.C. is overgrown with weeds and America's people won't miss a few lawn trimmings."

When asked what will convince him not to bulldoze D.C., he will "generously" demand a complete formal surrender of all powers currently vested in the United States government to himself, along with any and all remaining public assets. When the increasingly panicked negotiators ask what they get out of this "generous" offer, he will reply, much as Alaric did to a similar question from the Roman envoys, "Your lives."
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Curious about the methodology. If men are the victims of 53% of total reported assaults but comprise 90% of military, it's easy to do the math and see that they are nowhere near the majority as far as per capita rates of assault. I call bs...
41 weeks ago
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I call BS to your math.
36 weeks ago
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Let me clarify, Lovesmuggler, I call BS to your math.
36 weeks ago
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It was horrible for him. For us- how were we to know what had happened? He had gone on shore, after a 60 day stint offshore. He was visiting a city to see the Art Institute. His first gallery show had gone well. He went to a sophisticated bar, and then walked across a park to his car.

The next time anyone saw him was months later, in a completely different town- he was trying to be in the college town my brother was at- and he was in a group with a bunch of homeless, obviously mentally ill, or drunk, or drugged up, loitering men. He'd lost weight.

Our best guess was that he'd taken some drugs, and either had taken a really bad trip, or was really enjoying throwing his life away on many new drugs. I mean, who would guess a gang-rape followed by PTSD? He was 180 pounds of solid muscle when it happened. He couldn't look anyone in the eye, no one could touch him, he didn't make sense. It's not like he was walking around with a sign on him- " Hi, recovering from the worst shaming assault on my body and spirit than anyone could imagine!"

He'd taken my brother in in High School. So, we fed him and tried to help him. He was over 18, so his mother couldn't drag him home. He wasn't violent- he couldn't get arrested, he wasn't a danger to others or himself, particularly. He was just in the company of lost, deranged, drunken, broken homeless people, seeing things that others couldn't see, hearing things others couldn't hear, reacting to who knows what.

His mother got a bill from the hospital, and called them. It was before HIPAA. It's how we can guess what happened to him. He had a head injury, broken ribs, and things stuffed into him. She told my brother, who told me, after a year of us trying to figure out why he'd gone so completely to the dogs. He wouldn't go home to his mother's house.

I know every movie has some super- charismatic therapist sitting in a quiet room, emoting empathy to some vulnerable, handsome, clean, well-spoken person who immediately comes clear, and gets healed in 90 minutes, in time for a final walk on the beach......but what if the person is homeless, and can't listen, or really talk sense, or even be in a closed room with another person? Much less process someone else's wild empathy emotions?

I didn't see social workers going along and feeding people sandwiches, or going out with tubs of soup, or anything. I saw people in offices, waiting for the more pulled-together ones to come to them. A few years later, a man trying to be Christian, took a food cart out among the homeless. But that was years later. His ministry- that's amazing.

He wasted away to around 100 pounds. The bakery owner hired him. I don't know why, or how. That bakery owner is probably the most saintly man in town, in my view. He treated him with dignity. And, frankly, giving him a place to live on the roof, and then training him, bit by bit, until he'd been restored enough to go home? With not one bit of super- squishy showy empathy? Just "oh, he's a good worker... a good worker..." and then changing the subject?

I dated guys in the military in the 80's. Reagan had restored the military, so there was discipline and pride. Soldiers knew that if they did any violation of a woman that she could go to his CO and make charges, and he'd be up on charges- court-martial, Leavenworth,all of it. They'd tell you about it. To go out with a soldier was like being made of spun-glass and diamonds- one was treated so very carefully and respectfully.

Today? I don't know. We have Muslims being special snow-flakes. Major Hassan was promoted, rather than thrown out. He killed 13 people on a base my husband had worked at.

Are gay men going to be the special snow-flakes now? I read "21,000 acts of harassment" not 21,000 court-martials. What if it's my kid?

I can count, in ten years, 5 men I know who've been raped. Each and every one of them was a paragon of youth. I'm not exaggerating. Full-ride scholarship athletes- more than one- brilliant, computer major, math major, law school top five,- seriously, they're before would look like a Nazi recruiting poster- tall, blue eyes, light hair, muscular. Someone where you'd ask- how could someone do this? And the answer was- groups, or a hit on the head while turned away, a bigger athlete with a new steroid habit, drugged drinks. Each of them was completely broken by this. Like, turn on a dime, instant drunk, instant suicide attempt, instant homeless drug addict. These were young men who could have been amazing in their lives.

When I read about Sodom and Gomorrah, in the Bible. Okay, it's what? 5,000 years ago? But- how did they know these guys were angels? Did they look amazing? And, second, nobody ever says " Hey, God over-reacted."
41 weeks ago
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Well, here's most of the story of Sodom and Gomorrah in Genesis 19, for the record:

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Genesis%2019&version=NIV

It doesn't seem that any of the Sodomites actually knew much about those angels; they just said something along the lines of "Hey, Lot, we saw you bringing in those two new guys from places unknown; now bring them out so we can have our way with them!" To the Sodomites, anyone on two legs was probably sufficient to arouse their most violent lusts.

Also, if you back up to Chapter 18, you'll notice Sodom and Gomorrah were already slated for annihilation for all the terrible atrocities they'd committed; the whole incident with Lot was mostly just one last terrible insult to God and man alike to underscore how thoroughly those two city-states deserved to be scoured from the face of the earth so that nobody could claim God was over-reacting to anything.
41 weeks ago
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The new policy regarding this? Don't ask, don't tell.
41 weeks ago
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I would like to see the stats too. Unwanted sexual advance could mean a very creepy come on. While I am sure forced rape happens in the military to men, what are the actual numbers of that?
41 weeks ago
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I'd like to know specifically how sexual "contact" is defined in this study. I'm guessing it doesn't include just "a very creepy come on" as you suggest, even if a guy would find that rather personally disturbing. I could see it including stuff short of full-fledged rape like unwanted groping or grinding and the like, though. Guy-on-guy Tailhook-style sexual harrassment? It's been known to happen in other occupations (such as a case in which a bunch of guys on an oil rig sexually harassed another guy), so it could certainly happen in the military.
41 weeks ago
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Great analogy you did on Alaric. Spot on!
41 weeks ago
41 weeks ago Link To Comment
Odd this reminds me of the situation that occurred when they mandated that in spousal abuse situations, and arrest must be made. Then they found that about half of spousal abuse arrests were women. That old henpecked husband, hit with a rolling pin, stereotype; was found to have a kernel of truth at it's heart.
41 weeks ago
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The US Armed Forces did a magnificent job of integrating African Americans. The Progressives noticed this and have used the USAF to force feminist, gay and (I am sure in the near future), LGBT and mentally and physically disabled Americans into that organization. It all depends on what you think an armed force is for: progressives reject War (the reality of) of any kind, and therefore see the USAF as a huge powerless toy for them to play with.
41 weeks ago
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I'm not contradicting your point, but I do want to note that some veterans who have lost a limb (and thus are considered disabled) can stay in the military in non-combat jobs for the duration of their tour, and then retire with full medical benefits.
41 weeks ago
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I kind of suspect that Dear Leader Jarrett wants the military to wither into ineffectiveness.
41 weeks ago
41 weeks ago Link To Comment
and that is why my sons, scions of a military family that goes back to before the founding of the Republic- a family that has had members in quite literally every war and "police action" since Plymouth Rock, will not be joining the US Military.

There aren't rape crisis centers for men. The men, shamed beyond belief, end up living on the streets, if not committing suicide. My brother's best friend spent two years absolutely unhinged, on the street, until he could sort of work his way back to enough stability to go home to his mother. He was an artist, a oil-field worker- substantial, creative, brilliant, and after his assault, he was a ghostly, under-fed,street urchin. He stank. We would take him to one of our apartments- and stand outside- he couldn't be in a closed room with anyone- so he could shower. We'd have to hunt him down to feed him. After 18 months, a man with a bakery hired him for the night-shift, and let him sleep on the roof, where he could lock the door behind him.

His mother was a mental health nurse- she would have accepted him, but he was so shamed. His brother was a policeman- he could have hunted down his rapists. He was too shamed- he was from a good, stable, religious, loving home- a nearly ideal loving family. They'd taken my brother in, as a teen- that's how hospitable. He couldn't go to healing, or justice, or family, or acceptance, or near heaven, because of his shame, and grief and trauma.

My mother worked at a VA homeless shelter for two years- she's a veteran, herself. She said a surprising number of them had been brutalized like that...

I know it's clever to say that you have 'good friends who are gay'- but my friends have been raped by someone else's gay friends. Even people who are fans of gay guys talk about how direct, unboundaried, and brutal they are in satisfying their appetites. Soldiers had terrible reputations until the British and American armies insisted on Christian- based moral decency- including General George Washington hanging soldiers for the detestable crime of sodomy. Even now, most armies- including the UN's "peacekeeper" army- have criminally immoral people with guns preying on innocent victims.

42 weeks ago
42 weeks ago Link To Comment
Heartbreaking. How very sad for this man.
41 weeks ago
41 weeks ago Link To Comment
I've read those stats, but I would be curious to know where all those self reported "rapes" happened and what the circumstances are. For example, did they happen in combat zones? I don't recall any male on male rapes during my two year all expense paid vacation in South East Asia, but, then again, there were no females or alternate sexual life styles in the ranks, and we were all armed to the hilt. It's rather difficult to rape someone who's packing an M16, .45 auto, grenades, and with easy access to C4, shot guns, law rockets, and a bayonet. You have sleep sometime, and pay backs are a b.
42 weeks ago
42 weeks ago Link To Comment
So falls our military, and with it the rest of the country. Who's going to want to fight to defend our Sodom on the Potomac as it runs roughshod over all our Constitutional rights, destroys our economy, and downsizes our soldiers while leaving the military bureaucracy untouched? Our country's on its last legs, just like the Roman Empire.

When Alaric the Visigoth stood with his armies parked on Rome's doorstep, the envoys sent to negotiate with him made the typical empty threat that any attack on Rome would be suicidal, as it would be met with endless ranks of soldiers. Alaric the Visigoth, unimpressed, made the famous reply that "The thicker the grass is, the more easily it is mowed for hay." Rome's military had declined so badly that even offering slaves their freedom and a bounty to join its ranks was insufficient to sustain its enlistments, and he knew it.

Between the feminist and sodomite corruption and corrosion of our military and our multi-trillion-dollars-in-debt Washington D.C.'s refusal to pay for its upkeep, its ranks will also soon be decimated as those soldiers who don't get downsized or desert outright simply cease to renew their enlistments. (This will be before the bureaucrats extend enlistment periods, start mandating enlistment in exchange for any kind of subsidy or welfare benefit, and maybe institute another draft, all measures which will ultimately just lead to more desertion.)

Come the day, not too many years off now, when some barbaric Chinese or Arabic or maybe even Mexican general stands ready to invade the USA, some pair of negotiators or ambassadors dispatched from an embassy or the like (worthless bureaucrats in any case) will likewise threaten the invader with our country's (pregnant, barefoot, AIDS-riddled, effeminate, and shriveled) endless ranks of soldiers and (neglected, expired, dismantled, and decommissioned) nuclear weapons. The barbarian general's reply will doubtless be something along the lines of "D.C. is overgrown with weeds and America's people won't miss a few lawn trimmings."

When asked what will convince him not to bulldoze D.C., he will "generously" demand a complete formal surrender of all powers currently vested in the United States government to himself, along with any and all remaining public assets. When the increasingly panicked negotiators ask what they get out of this "generous" offer, he will reply, much as Alaric did to a similar question from the Roman envoys, "Your lives."
42 weeks ago
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Nothing short of brilliant, Riprake! "History doen't repeat itself! Men do!"~Voltaire.
41 weeks ago
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And of course, when that happens, any decent left inside the gates will be asking, "Who are the real barbarians? The army outside or the ones we're stuck in here with?"
41 weeks ago
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Yep. If, for instance, the Chinese were to take over Washington D.C., we would then be under the tyrannical rule of a corrupt Marxist regime of power-hungry parasites that regularly enriches and accumulates power to itself at the expense of its citizens.

Same as now.
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