21ST CENTRY DATING: Sleeping Together Before First Date Is OK, But Using Your Phone During the Date Is Taboo. A third of singles have had sex with each other before their first date, according to Match.com’s representative survey of the American population. “We have a real misunderstanding of Millennials,” said Helen Fisher, the anthropologist who designed the survey. “I think they are very career oriented, so sex before the first date could be a sex interview, where they want to know if they want to spend time with this person.”

But don’t answer your  phone during the date. That’s a turn-off for three-quarters of the singles. Other findings:

The majority of men believe that feminism has changed dating for the better, with only 35% saying that the rise of gender equality has made dating worse.

Men reported that they want women to take charge, with a little over 90% of men are in favor of a woman making the first move when it comes to kissing and sex.

Thought you had to wait for a man to ask for your number? Not the case, with 95% of men saying it’s OK for a woman to ask for a man’s number, according to the survey.

But once again, while men may appreciate a more assertive women, the message is lost in translation, with only 29% of women reporting that they would initiate a first kiss, and only 13% asking for a phone number.

And the all-important question: Who picks up the check?

While 71% of men find it attractive when a woman offers to split the bill, if a woman asks to split it may mean she’s just not that into you.

Sixty-five percent of men reported that they thought a woman offered to split in order to be polite, while 78% of women surveyed said they offered to pay because they don’t want to feel obligated for anything. That means no hug, kiss or second date.

This helps explain the conspicuous silence during the Women’s March on Washington on the issue of check-equity.