December 17, 2012
A man is going to come home with the real bacon. Anything I did was just like extra credit.
I didn’t realize I unconsciously thought these things until I was a 28-year-old woman.
“You haven’t played your career out to its full potential because you didn’t have the stress of making as much money as possible,” my friend told me.
I rolled my eyes, but I realized he was right. First of all, it’s true that being a man who feels wholly responsible for providing for a family is as stressful as it is liberating. My father was fortunate, yet not. I’m sure he fought for raises twice as hard as I have because he really fucking had to. But I don’t have a wife and daughter, so all these years, when I have gone into work it has been with the understanding that I am so grateful to have a job at all, so excited to be in a workplace. I am less concerned with where my career is going or what my paycheck is.
The need to support a family focuses the mind wonderfully.