Women Hate Me Because I’m Beautiful
Here’s the meaningless story making the rounds in the NFM (Non-Fox Media.) For reasons I don’t quite understand, apparently this woman made it onto the Today show because she pissed people off by writing an article claiming that women hate her because she’s too beautiful:
Samantha Brick appeared yesterday on ITV’s This Morning to defend herself against the extraordinary internet storm provoked by the article she wrote claiming women hate her because she is beautiful.
Talking to Eamonn Holmes and Ruth Langsford – who trailed Samantha’s appearance heavily throughout the morning’s show, telling readers they would ‘soon see her in the flesh’ – Samantha was grilled on her view that she was too beautiful to be liked – and that women do not like attractive women.
Eamonn demanded 41-year-old writer Samantha admit that she was ‘very good looking’, forcing her to concur.
‘You do believe you are very good looking?’ he asked.
‘It’s not that I believe it – I believe the perception of it, and the perception of how men approach women,’ she replied.
Is it just me or does it seem like stories like this have been written before and caused similar little mini-bursts of fake outrage in the blogosphere?
Not especially attractive physically, and appears to have a very ugly personality. (BTW, I’m a guy.)
I’m afraid Miss Brick is essentially correct. If it were otherwise, the reaction to the article would have been far milder — from both women and men.
I don’t see her as particularly attractive, but that is a matter of taste.
My sister suffers from such female envy all the time. She draws men’s eyes, even those times when she is overweight. How much does it suck to be a young beauty, only to be outshone by a 40-something woman who could stand to lose 50 pounds?
Beauty is more than just physical looks. It is grace, bearing, warmth. Look at Palin. She has nice features, sure, but she is not physically the most beautiful woman around. Yet, she is one of the most beautiful women on the planet. She has that ‘it’. Some women have it. Others don’t.
My sister has the warmth. And she is more comfortable with guys than with girls. The guys totally dig that. Women hate my sister. She cannot hold a job, because the women always make so much trouble for her. The bosses know it is not her fault, but it is easier to replace her than to replace all the others.
So, now she shoots pool for a living.
If you just look around a bit in real life, you’ll see that Brick and Porretto are correct. Women do tend to ‘hate’ other women they perceive to be beautiful. I’m guessing it’s an evolutionary rivalry thing.
It may be that there’s something that doesn’t come through photos. My wife knows a woman from when she lived in St. Louis who was a guy magnet. According to my wife (I’ve never met the lady in question) she’s not particularly attractive; decent, but not drop-dead gorgeous. A group of the girls would go to a bar, some of them being gorgeous, and this one rather plain lady would get hit on all night. None of the girls of my wife’s circle could ever figure it out, but apparently it was extremely predictable.
Maybe Miss Brick’s female acquaintances have a similar thing, a sort of “bitch-Radar” whioh alerts them on her approach.
And yes, it’s a trivial and stupid issue. I saw an article online yesterday, and dismissed her in 20 seconds, if not less. Had no idea she’d gotten as far as the Today Show.
That is a terrible picture of her, but from others I have seen she is quite attractive now, and I bet she was hot when she was 20.
If you know any beautiful women, you know that many people, particularly less attractive women, but also guys who would never have had a chance with a girl that pretty, hate them and treat them horridly. No matter how good they are at anything, it is assumed they got their position in exchange for sexual favors, or that they are there for decorative purposes only. And the favors and freebees they do get are mostly from creepy guys trying to buy sexual access.
And, if they bring it up, they get a whole lot of people claiming that they are vain, or not really that attractive, or have no standing to complain because they always had it easy and had everything handed to them. Especially from women who are objectively less attractive and guys who never had access to women that pretty and finally have a chance to get even for their rejection.
Not to worry lady, women don’t hate you because you’re beautiful. They take an instant dislike to you because it saves a lot of time.
Hit! Sunk!
While she is right about how some women treat each other based on looks, it seems most commentors can’t get to that part because they can’t get past the fact that she broke the unspoken rule: attractive, pretty or drop dead gorgeous, never ever say you are beautiful. It’s ok to say so about others but never about yourself, at least not out loud. Society simply won’t allow it.
I think the reaction would be different if the premise of the article had been written from the point of view of other women that Ms. Brick considers beautiful instead of from her own personal experiences. Her own point of view is too subjective. She assumes her treatment by both men and women is based solely on her looks but there is probably more to it than that. The chances that a man will approach a woman who is not only pretty but outgoing as well are better than for the introverted pretty woman who is generally seen as unapproachable. I think women react in a similar way. A friend once told me that when we first met she didn’t like me because she thought I was a snob, but that after getting to know me she realized that I wasn’t a snob, just shy. That was a real eye-opener for me. I was just a teenager and thought that I was just unlikeable, unattractive. I realized that my shyness made me unapproachable to both men and women. While Ms. Brick isn’t shy, she has, through her own doing or possibly not, created a shell around herself where women are concerned. She may discover what that shell is by dropping the superficial ‘don’t hate me because I’m beautiful’ routine and take a deeper look at how she interacts with other women and how those interactions are perceived.
Does nuttin for me. Why frickin bother with such inane trivia?