Study: Women Aged 25-34 Least Likely to Enjoy Sex
A recent study from Public Health England reveals that women aged 25-34 are more likely than women in other age groups to experience a lack of “sexual enjoyment.” That’s right, the “woke” generation isn’t all that happy in the sack. But how can that be? Aren’t millennials the ones rhapsodizing about the joys of sexual empowerment, encouraging us to be “sex positive,” and touting the wonders of no-strings-attached sex? Shouldn’t millennials be having the Best. Sex. Ever?
An op-ed in The Independent apparently has the answer. The reason so many millennial women in the UK are having “sh*t sex,” writes Rebecca Reid, is because they are “allowing men to have sh*t sex with them.” The idea that women are programmed by the patriarchy to agree to sex even when they don’t want to is not a novel concept among modern feminists. The 2017 viral New Yorker story “Cat Person” dealt with this issue, as have numerous advice columns and women’s magazines. How is it possible, though, that the generation of women’s sexual empowerment is the generation most in need of this advice?
The answer can be found, I think, in the modern feminist expectations for their sexual encounters. “As a woman you absolutely must not – cannot – accept mediocre sex,” writes Reid. This makes it sound like sex is something you can research as a commodity before actually experiencing it. As if, in Reid’s mind, a man might show up with a demo tape of his sexual moves which a woman could, upon watching and taking detailed notes, accept or decline. (Don’t come in here offering this mediocre sex! one can imagine Reid haughtily declaring. Come back when you’ve got something better.) Then she’ll go online and review his sexual performance on Yelp.
“We need to tell our sexual partners in no uncertain terms that we did not orgasm,” says Reid, “and then we need to give them the specifics of why.” That sounds like delightful pillow talk. I’m all for people having open and honest conversations about sex with their romantic partners, but Reid makes it sounds like it’s somehow the woman’s right to be angry at the man for not performing adequately in bed. If you think I’m misinterpreting her, Reid makes it abundantly clear that I am not: “Unsatisfactory sex is a type of subjugation.”
If the unsatisfactory sex, in and of itself, is a type of subjugation, that necessarily implies that men are purposefully being mediocre in bed in order to have some kind of dominance over women. Since I don’t even understand what that would mean, I have to assume that Reid is simply saying words like “subjugation” in order to make it sound like this issue is all men’s fault. And fun as that may be for some people (for some reason) it seems like there’s another issue at play.