For Men: What’s Masculine vs. What’s Feminine
One of the worst things to happen to men and women in the modern age is the blurring of the line between masculine and feminine.
There are a number of reasons for that. An over-feminized society. Feminist attacks on masculinity. Poor role models on TV. Fewer men growing up with their fathers or working in masculine professions.
But, the biggest causes are probably the rise of single motherhood and women going into the workforce en masse. When you take women out of the home and put them into a working environment, by necessity they have to become more masculine. That masculine imbalance carries over into their home life and many men have become more feminine as a response to it. Similarly, single mothers may not only have to fill a masculine role at work, but they may have to also fill it at home with their children.
To counter that, it’s necessary to start defining masculine and feminine roles so you can know which role you’re filling – and EVERYBODY fills both masculine and feminine roles at times. It’s all right to do that, especially situationally. If you’re a single dad, you’re going to have to do some mothering. If you’re a female manager, you’re going to have to be a boss. Furthermore, it is OKAY to be masculine and have SOME feminine traits or feminine with SOME masculine traits. However, if you start finding yourself spending MOST of your time displaying traits that don’t match up to your gender, you are probably not going to be happy.
So, what’s masculine and what’s feminine?
Competing (m) vs. Cooperating (f)
Aggressive (m) vs. Passive (f)
Leading (m) vs. Supporting (f)
Inwardly focused (m) vs. Nurturing (f)
Conquering (m) vs. Sharing (f)
Toughness (m) vs. Tenderness (f)
Discipline (m) vs. Permissiveness (f)
Achievement (m) vs. Appearance (f)
Defiance (m) vs. Surrender (f)
Emotionally stable (m) vs. Emotionally volatile (f)
Dominant (m) vs. Submissive (f)
Freedom & Release (m) vs. Connectedness (f)
Indifference (m) vs. Empathy (f)
Logical (m) vs. Emotional (f)
Confidence (m) vs. Uncertainty (f)
Decisive (m) vs. Timid (f)
Muscularity (f) vs. Beauty (f)
Impervious (m) vs. Vulnerable (f)
Strength (m) vs. Delicateness (f)
Self-Reliance (m) vs. Asking for help (f)
Giving gifts (m) vs. Receiving gifts (f)
Some women will undoubtedly dislike this breakdown because many highly desirable jobs like CEO, general and president are naturally masculine roles. That doesn’t mean a woman can’t do those jobs, but it does mean she’ll have to take on a more masculine persona to do it. Many feminists would rather mislead you about that because they can’t bear the idea that men might have certain intrinsic advantages in areas where they want to be successful.