7 Brutal Truths That Will Make Your Life Better If You Accept Them

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"If you want a happy ending, that depends, of course, on where you stop your story." — Orson Welles

“Life is pain, Highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something.” – The Princess Bride

Life is full of possibility and opportunity, but it’s also harsh and unforgiving. Yes, you can make a great life for yourself, but life is not a fairy tale; it’s not user-friendly and if you’re not careful, it will remorselessly roll over you like a 10-ton steamroller.

Many of us, myself included, preach optimism, positive thinking and looking at the glass as half full. However, there’s a difference between that and being a Pollyanna who looks at the world through rose-colored glasses. Too many people smash their heads against the wall over and over because they refuse to acknowledge reality and then, sadly, they finally just give up. Once you accept the uglier parts of life for what they are instead of sugar-coating them, you’ll go farther than you ever could have otherwise.

1. The average person cares more about what he eats for lunch than whether you live or die

Rob Bailey and the Hustle Standard’s song “Go Forever” starts out like so:

First of all, I was raised like...

Don't be a b*tch, work as hard as you can

And no one gives a f*ck if...

you don't have enough money

nobody gives a f*ck if you're hungry

nobody gives a f*ck if you're tired

you're the only one that can fix that

Other than your close family and maybe a handful of close friends, that’s true and even the people who care the most will typically stay out of your business if they can. What about all those people tweeting out #hashtags about your problem? What about the politicians that say they care? How about the people who demand legislation to help you? They don’t care if you live or die; they’re just virtue signaling. They want everyone to see how wonderful they are because they’re so great that they even care about a schmoe like you. You tell the average person that doesn’t know you very well that you have a fatal disease and he’ll say, “I’m so sorry to hear that.” Then he’ll forget about it in five minutes while he debates with his friends whether they’re going to Chili’s or the Mexican restaurant down the street. What that means is that everything you want out of life, you better prepare to earn without getting a lot of favors on the way. If you fall, you have to be the one to pick yourself up off the ground, brush yourself off and get your life back on track. You care. They don’t. So it’s up to you.