Why Women Need to Read and Watch Romance Like 'Poldark'—Written by Men

Graham also fails to include endless contemplative soliloquies about relationships and the mysteries of the opposite sex. Ross Poldark roams mentally all at once before succumbing to an undefined set of passionate emotions. Having given in to such “passions” he returns to his logical state the next day and determines a practical outcome. There’s no petal-picking, “loves me, loves me not” here. Graham’s character is, to borrow a contemporary analogy, the perfect mashup of Kirk and Spock. Poldark is passionate, emotional beyond even his own comprehension, but also painfully logical to the point of being a cynic about society, class and even his own internal hypocrisies.

It is a rich novel with a round and full character who reminds us that even the quietest of men possess passionate, deeply held convictions. Through Poldark we also learn that men, contrary to popular depiction, are the first to recognize and criticize their own faults and failings. Simply put, Poldark is a refreshing break from the typical story line that has come to rule pop culture: Smart girl can’t wrap her head around dumb boy so she gives him her heart, but he doesn’t know what to do with it. On the subject of love, Poldark gives us a much-needed peek into a man’s psyche and we begin to see that he is all at once carnal and emotional, restrained by convention and governed by conviction. In other words, he is as human as the woman herself.

Women need to set aside the meandering longings and repetitive fantasies of other women. We know what we think and how we feel. It’s what men think and what men feel that has always captured our real, true and undying interest. Pardon my seemingly masculine-like logic here, but who better to inform us of these things than a man?